Types of Visitors … That I Don’t Like

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In the past three weeks, I’ve been quite hectic trying to balance my life with two kids. With a new family addition, comes greetings, gifts and visitors. It’s something I can’t really control, a lot of people came to visit me and of course we are talking about family members, friends even neighbors. I’m grateful don’t get me wrong but there are certain types of visitors that I cannot tolerate.

  • The ones that shows up without a warning
    I absolutely hate it when someone just shows up like that without letting me know, and it happened plenty of times while I was sleeping in my first week after giving birth. I’m really tired and barely sleeping from the baby crying along with the aches that comes after birth from stitches and back aches. I’m supposed to wake up and smile for them when I’m supposed to spend my time resting and healing ?
  • The ones that come at wrong times
    I hate when guests texts you that they are coming at a certain time because that’s convenient for them only not for me, for example couple of guests came early in the morning. I’m supposed to bathe my baby and then feed her so she won’t cry while I go to take a shower and be ready for those guests. Sometimes I can’t be ready on time if my baby wants to feed longer or randomly cries because she needs cuddles and hugs, and that stresses me out.
  • The ones that stay for too long
    I’m already trying to manage my time in dealing with two kids, some guests don’t understand that I cant sit with them for long and it gets awkward when I leave to feed my daughter and they just sit there in the living room apparently waiting for me. Keep your visit short and understand that I can’t be with you for long when I’m needed by my child more.
  • The ones that like to comment about your choice of the baby name
    Mostly older people would do this, they’ll comment about the name you chose for your baby like their opinion is very important. I feel names are more of a personal choice between the parents and others should understand that.
  • The ones that keeps commenting about the baby

    “oh the baby is crying, it must be because she’s hungry”
    Thanks for telling me, I didn’t know that

    Those know it all just irritates me, clearly stating the obvious. I know my child has colic, I know she’s crying because she’s either hungry or her diaper is dirty, or her tummy hurts. It may sound silly to others but it does irritates me for some reason.

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Games I Played While Waiting For Labor

Waiting for labor can be nerve wrecking, you’ve reached the end of the line and you have to be patient for few more days while you already feel you’re just done with this whole pregnancy and miserable. I’ve been praying for every contraction I feel to be more stronger and painful so I could be done with this, I’ve read numerous articles on ways how to induce labor and obviously failing in every one of them. Nothing really worked for me and I was just fed up, I’ve given up and said “you know what, my daughter is going to be a stubborn if she’s that comfortable inside and doesn’t want to leave yet

To ease my mind off labor and just wait for it to naturally happen, I decided to game more whenever I feel a contraction is happening whether it’s false or real. So here’s the list of games I played religiously while waiting for labor.

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There’s something about those simulator games that triggers your brain into addiction, I’m sure of it … based on my science. House Flipper is a simulation game which lets you buy wrecked houses where you can repair and remodel then sell them for profit, and so on. The concept is pretty simple but I found myself addicted to this game, I enjoyed remodeling the houses, painting the walls, installing floor tiles and getting creative with the colors and decor of the rooms. It’s a great game to spend time on, I highly recommend it.

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Every article you’re going to read about this game is going to compare it to Stardew Valley and rightfully so, just add a graveyard to take care of and a massive checklist to do which makes the gameplay very long. I won’t say I love this game, I just like it. I have this weakness against pixel art games, and Graveyard Keeper is just gorgeous I won’t deny it. The music is what attracted me the most, it’s very soothing and calm that I had to complement the creativity infused in the tracks and ironically the composer thanked me and followed me on twitter. I know this game isn’t exactly everyone’s cup of tea and it has mixed reviews on Steam, but I would honestly recommend it maybe less than Moonlighter but it’s a good game.

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If you played World of Goo and Little Inferno, you might be familiar with this game. I’m all for games that challenges you with puzzles but sometimes they make me feel stupid even thought the answer is pretty obvious, that’s how Human Resource Machine made me feel. I studied Software Technologies so I’m accustomed to programming flow, and that’s what this game made me feel basically writing pseudo codes for a program that include numbers. It gets frustrating at times but it helped keeping my mind off of labor while I played it.

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34 Weeks Pregnancy Update & Blog Changes

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I’ve been quite hectic preparing for the baby reception, and getting those last things that I need when the baby arrives. Also finalizing my maternity leave starting my 36 week because I’ll need all the rest and energy I can get before I push out the baby out of me. I wanted to post all the stuff I got for the baby reception but it would give away the gender of the baby and I want to keep it a secret till the birthday so I’m planning to post it when I give birth in few weeks from now.

The baby is starting to drop so my due date has shifted from the end of September to mid September and that made me a bit nervous and anxious, I mean I already know what’s coming up on those last weeks but like they say “Every pregnancy is different” and this pregnancy is definitely different than my previous one so I’m not sure what I’m expecting. I hope that the labor and delivery goes smoother than my first pregnancy since now I know more after experiencing it. I think I’m satisfied with being named a Mom of Two and I have no plans currently in expanding my family more for the time being, I’m planning to go back to college and get a higher degree and changing my career completely.

Along with those planned changes, I’ll probably post less in the upcoming weeks and maybe make it one post every week instead of two I guess it depends on how much free time I can get and how long I need in adapting to my life with a new addition to the family. I’ll still reply to emails I get from my blog and probably be more active on Twitter if you’re interested in following me.

Lastly I wanted to thank everyone who keeps reading my blog, I had no idea I would be reaching this amount of followers and interactions, I had no idea I would get those opportunities from various companies and websites so I’m very grateful for that. Thank you all for the continuous support and god bless you all.

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What They Don’t Tell You About Pregnancy

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Pregnancy is a beautiful journey where you discover your maternal side and all those pretty words they add in every book, article or even cards. I’ve had two pregnancies so far and I’ve experienced different effects in each pregnancy, so I can assure you each pregnancy is different. Along with this bright side of it, the perfect skin and hair obviously there’s a low side as well. Here’s the hard truths about pregnancy and what no one really told me when I got pregnant.

  • Stressing over maternity leave. If you are a working mom, maternity leave will be one of the your main concerns because you’ll be counting the days you’re allowed to have while getting paid or add a month or two unpaid. For example I’ve been counting the days I can take while accumulating my annual leave so I can add it after my maternity leave ends so I would have more time to spend with my kids. The whole matter is stressful on it’s own because it feels like I’m forcing myself to go to work while I’m tired and I need to rest.
  • The gross side. No one really told me about the gross and disgusting stuff that happens during pregnancy. The burping, the hiccups, passing gas and feeling your dignity fading away along with it. I’m afraid it might happen to me in public and I have no way of controlling this, it just happens at weird times unexpected.
  • Everyone likes to tell you about their experience. For some reason every lady wants to tell you about her experience in pregnancy whether it’s good or bad, and if you are a first time mom it might scare you.
  • Nine months is a bit too long. You start counting those nine months in weeks and 40 weeks sound easy to pass by but not really. Because you are waiting for those weeks to pass, it’ll seem much longer than it should be and each week just dragging the next one.
  • Heartburns. I HATE THEM and it sucks that I only get them at night before I sleep or I just suddenly wake up because of a heartburn. They make me miserable and I found out medicines that supposed to help you, don’t really work with me so ice cream became my best friend. They work instantly and helps with heartburns really fast so I always stock my freezer with different flavors so I wouldn’t get bored.

I love having kids, I don’t mind the pain from labor or childbirth because these only lasts at that moment but the whole nine month journey isn’t exactly my favorite chapter.

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Four Seasons of Pregnancy Fashion

One of the reasons I love being pregnant is having the excuse of refreshing my wardrobe. I love shopping for clothes, it gives me a rush of trying different styles and having something new basically. I don’t necessary always choose maternity clothes, plus size and larger sized clothes are good enough for me. The best part about them, I could reuse them after I give birth but in a different way, like adding a belt and showing off how your waist slimmed down after pregnancy.

When it comes to pregnancy clothes, I always choose dresses. I feel they are more comfortable to wear for everyday more than pants, like I said before I can use them later on after pregnancy but as for maternity pants I feel they are only useful for few months then that’s it. I think dresses are more adaptable for body changes compared to pants, I’ll say it’s a preference in the end.

On the journey of 9 months, you go through seasons worth of clothes so I decided to list dresses appropriate for each season during your pregnancy. All the dresses listed in this post are offered in many sizes from S to 4XL so whether your pregnant or not, you can easily find your size.

This post is sponsored by Talever

Spring

When you think of Spring, you always have a floral designed dresses in mind.

I personally go for these dresses online because it’s very comfortable, the lace ribbon can be tied on the chest area leaving space for your belly to grow. If you’re going for more of a modest style, you could wear a pair of leggings and it’ll still look pretty nice.


Summer

For Summer, I always go for bohemian maxi dresses or beach dresses maxi styled dresses.

I think polyester is a great material, mostly because it’s stretchable. Like this dress, it’s gonna help you cool down in the summer heat and won’t make your bump feel uncomfortable since the material would be stretchable.


Fall

I think fall got a stigma of having more of a dark colored clothes, it somehow feels more fitting with the weather getting colder.

This dress is one the examples I mentioned earlier, you could use it after pregnancy when you add just a small accessory like a belt and it’ll look something different. I would wear this with a thick pantyhose, and I think it would be good to wear even in winter.


Winter

The transition from fall to winter fashion isn’t much, if the climate get more colder you could always wear something on your dress. I would personally go for a cotton cardigan, I feel they fit pretty much any style.

Now I would go for this gorgeous dress because it’s long enough to keep my legs warm and I can adjust the tight waist part to go above my pregnant belly. It can be used as a formal dress as well while staying comfortable.


I hope you enjoyed this selection of dresses I would recommend getting whether you’re pregnant or not, the site Talever offers those dresses in all sizes so I’m sure you’ll find your size in something you like. Let me know what do you think in the comments below.

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Pregnancy Then and Now

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They tell you each pregnancy is different and a totally unique experience, I’ve been comparing my previous pregnancy to my current and it’s definitely different. I’m currently 18 weeks pregnant which means I’m in my 5th month, I’ve experienced things I’ve never had in my first pregnancy so to me it feels like it’s my first time.

The nausea didn’t end, even the vitamin supplements they gave me makes me sick so I have to take them before I go to bed so I wouldn’t feel like I want to throw up. My first pregnancy was definitely much smoother and easier, I was actually pretty active and energetic when I entered my 4th month. Now I can’t even apply makeup before I go to work, I don’t feel like going out as before. To ease my nausea, I found out chocolate worked well with me so I had to buy this …

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I was fearing diabetes but if it helps my nausea, I don’t care.

Recently I started getting pain on my right leg, I even started limping. When I’m laying down or sitting, I feel fine but when I stand up and start walking, I feel the uterus pressure on my right side and it effects my leg. It was very painful, I had to go to my doctor and ask her about it. She told me the uterus is growing more to the right side and that’s common, with time it’s pressing on the nerves on my leg which is causing me the pain. There’s no solution to it since the uterus grows as weeks pass and eventually it’ll be more centered, what I can do is add more protein to my diet so it would help the nerves to bare this.

At the same time, I wanted to know the gender of my baby … but …

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Me: Honey, please turn so I can see your beautiful face
Baby: No … you want to see my privates

My baby was holding the umbilical cord with hands and legs like it’s her/his comfort teddy so it blocked the vision, but we did manage to see the gender after all and I want to keep it private till I give birth. I feel excited to meet my new baby, my son keeps checking my belly and repeating “baby”. I want to see his reaction when he feels the movement on my belly, should be interesting.

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Moments That Matter

It’s been awhile since I posted something and I’m really sorry for that, I’ve been stressed out lately with life. I don’t know why 2017 started out with massive waves of stress to my face, here’s the part where I sing Fighter by Christina Aguilera.

Yesterday I took my son for his 13 month vaccination and it really made me think how time flies, a year ago this human was so tiny and now he’s fully grown and almost walking. There’re some moments in life that can’t be captured through pictures or videos, you forever remember them in your mind like it happened few hours ago. I think technology took away the ability to enjoy such moments, before we used to keep physical photos in albums and show them to other family members but now we save them in our phones and sometime later they’ll get deleted or the device will get formatted. These moments became so fragile that they can easily get lost if we didn’t find a way to store them somewhere.

One of the moments that I truly cherish is when I first time heard my son say ‘mama‘ I almost got emotional for that because I never thought I would have children and become a mother in the first place. It hit me how naive and shallow I was back then, I sometimes think I found a purpose in life when I became a mother.

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When I talk about how my son finally started crawling, I would laugh my heart out because it happened in such a hilarious moment. My son started moving around by sliding backwards and I really wanted him to start crawling forward, we figured he likes the lights of the keyboard on laptops so we flipped one open in front of him and he instantly started crawling towards it. Now he’s really getting into devices .. like me.

I know this post came out random but I struggle to believe sometimes that he’s grown so fast in the past year and becoming more vocal and social. I guess what I’m really trying to say is always cherish these important moments in life whether you keep them as photos or in your memory because they mark milestones for you and others who are involved in that moment.

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