Types of Visitors … That I Don’t Like

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In the past three weeks, I’ve been quite hectic trying to balance my life with two kids. With a new family addition, comes greetings, gifts and visitors. It’s something I can’t really control, a lot of people came to visit me and of course we are talking about family members, friends even neighbors. I’m grateful don’t get me wrong but there are certain types of visitors that I cannot tolerate.

  • The ones that shows up without a warning
    I absolutely hate it when someone just shows up like that without letting me know, and it happened plenty of times while I was sleeping in my first week after giving birth. I’m really tired and barely sleeping from the baby crying along with the aches that comes after birth from stitches and back aches. I’m supposed to wake up and smile for them when I’m supposed to spend my time resting and healing ?
  • The ones that come at wrong times
    I hate when guests texts you that they are coming at a certain time because that’s convenient for them only not for me, for example couple of guests came early in the morning. I’m supposed to bathe my baby and then feed her so she won’t cry while I go to take a shower and be ready for those guests. Sometimes I can’t be ready on time if my baby wants to feed longer or randomly cries because she needs cuddles and hugs, and that stresses me out.
  • The ones that stay for too long
    I’m already trying to manage my time in dealing with two kids, some guests don’t understand that I cant sit with them for long and it gets awkward when I leave to feed my daughter and they just sit there in the living room apparently waiting for me. Keep your visit short and understand that I can’t be with you for long when I’m needed by my child more.
  • The ones that like to comment about your choice of the baby name
    Mostly older people would do this, they’ll comment about the name you chose for your baby like their opinion is very important. I feel names are more of a personal choice between the parents and others should understand that.
  • The ones that keeps commenting about the baby

    “oh the baby is crying, it must be because she’s hungry”
    Thanks for telling me, I didn’t know that

    Those know it all just irritates me, clearly stating the obvious. I know my child has colic, I know she’s crying because she’s either hungry or her diaper is dirty, or her tummy hurts. It may sound silly to others but it does irritates me for some reason.

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New Family Addition

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Well it’s been a while since I last posted, I actually forgot how to use WordPress by this point.

On 22nd of September, I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. Now I can officially call myself a mom of two and be proud of it. I needed to take some time away from blogging and spend less time on social media so I can adapt myself to this new chapter of my life. It was a rather tiring and exhausting experience, and I wouldn’t compare it to my first pregnancy at all. It was hard and I want to say I’m done with having kids but I know I will forget all the pain I went through and say “I miss being pregnant

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We decided to name her the moment she took her first breath after choosing two potential names, seeing her face made the choice easier. I do enjoy buying more pink and girly outfits after getting used to buying for my son for nearly 3 years, should be fun getting those cute dresses later when she’s older.

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My son took few days to get used to having a sibling but he’s been very caring and thoughtful with her. I remember going in to the room after getting her bath ready and seeing my son laying next to her and talking to her, it was a very beautiful moment for me to witness.

I’m scheduling ahead few more posts and of course I’m going to insert few gaming ones in between, hopefully get back to my old blog schedule routine if I can.

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YumeTwins – September 2018

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At least I’m getting kawaii stuff while waiting for labor, am I right ?

YumeTwins is a monthly kawaii box which includes 6-8 kawaii items ranging from plushies, squishies, practical goods, kawaii stationery & more. For September theme, it focuses on “Staycation” and for my condition obviously I couldn’t travel anywhere this year which made me a bit cranky and moody since I’m seeing all my friends snapping around the world (get $5 off your first YumeTwins box).

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Onsen Bird Plushie

This plushie is absolutely adorable, the face looks more angry to me than as a normal closed eyes relaxing at the Onsen and that made me love it more. It has a cute pink cherry blossom on top of the head and holding a small towel under the wing, it’s also incredibly soft.

Marumofubiyori Sticky Notes

Marumofubiyori is my favorite Sanrio character. These sticky notes goes well hand in hand with last month notebook, but I think I would give them to my siblings since school started and these would be more useful to them than me.

Sanrio Eco Bag

I am so glad that I got Little Twin Stars design for this bag because it looks better in my opinion than My Melody. Honestly I thought it’s only this small bag that somehow opens up to be bigger but I was wrong it’s actually this small bag as in the picture and a bigger bag folded inside it so you get two bags, one small and one big. The material is very durable and I think I’m definitely going to use it when I’m going back to work.

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Character Toothbrush Kit

I take oral hygiene very seriously, I like using a certain toothbrush brand so I wouldn’t really use this kit for myself. I was kind of hoping to get the Totoro kit instead of Hello Kitty so I would let my son use it because he loves the movie. I’ll obviously give it to one of my siblings since I won’t be using it.

Disney Tsum Tsum Tumbler

So this came in a perfect time, I’m trying to increase my water intake and this tumbler would be very useful for me. I wouldn’t say it’s large enough to hold one liter of fluid so I’ll need to refill it throughout my day but I’m very glad I got this.

Cute Zipper Bags

These snack bags are very useful for me, I instantly thought of using them when I go to the hospital as I might stay over after giving birth so I would have few snacks to munch on. I got My Melody design and they came in a set of four bags which is great to have, the more the better. I’m also subscribed to TokyoTreat so I thought of using these bags in carrying some of my favorite snacks sent in that box.

Overall, another great box from YumeTwins. I love the plushies they send out that’s for sure and the items in this box are definitely very useful for me for my current condition and I would use them again in other occasions.

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Between Blogging, Motherhood and Gaming

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I love blogging, it helps me express my thoughts through words and maybe someone out there would love to read. I felt pretty empty in the past week when I didn’t schedule any post for the blog, it really became part of my life at this point. I’m currently in my 37th week and I’m just exhausted, I’m on the verge on trying any way to induce labor. It’s been quite hectic to find time to blog and this is why I thought of writing this post. I’ve been asked about it a lot to be honest, how do I have the time to balance between blogging, being a mother and gaming.

  • Force a “Me Time”
    It’s a ritual I live by, I have to have my Me Time. Being a mother can be exhausting and naturally you feel all your time and energy is poured into taking care of your children. I plan my Me Time ahead, it usually includes candle lit baths and a resting face mask obviously. If it wasn’t too late, I usually start gaming and try to limit the time so I wouldn’t go to work with my zombie sleep deprived face.
  • List blog topic ideas in notes
    When It comes to blogging, trying to find content that fits the niche of my blog can be a struggle sometimes. I try to mix up posts between motherhood related ones and videogames when I schedule two posts a week. I usually write down the ideas in an app in my phone or open a blank post and save the title in drafts till I get the time to write the content.
  • Plan your gaming time when kids are sleeping or not around
    So when it comes to gaming, I usually start gaming when my son sleeps or he’s out with my husband or in laws. It gives me that window to game without any interruption specially that my son is old enough to sleep through the night. My problem with this though, I sometimes lose track of time when I game at night so I end up sleeping late.
  • Blogging is a venting outlet not a chore
    When it comes to blogging, some bloggers post twice or thrice a week and sometimes the content on these posts sound like they are forced and doesn’t capture the reader’s attention which is why I’m saying I don’t want to make blogging as a chore. I really enjoy it and I feel happy that I was consistent in posting twice a week before. Take it from me, blog when you feel like it and don’t force yourself to do it just because traffic and numbers look attractive to you.
  • Use motherhood moments as an inspiration for future posts
    I’ve been getting emails from ladies saying they appreciate my honesty when it comes to motherhood related posts and it really made me happy. I love using my own experiences and my own mistakes as an inspiration in posts, it gives my entries more of a realistic view about motherhood. No one is perfect, we all learn and grow from those moments we have in life and I enjoy sharing them in my posts to whoever feels or experienced the same.
  • Use your personal view on a game rather than trying to make it sound and look professional
    When I want to post a game related entry, I try to include my own personal feelings because I really don’t want to sound like I’m trying to be a professional IGN reviewer, it also shows how passionate you are. It’s easy to fall in that trap when you start researching about the game and then try to imitate how they wrote the review, this is why I enjoy it more and even if I don’t hit 400 words mark at least I wrote what I thought about the game.

I hope these points help any blogger or mother who’s struggling with balancing life, it’s all about time management. It’s alright to make mistakes, being a mother is overwhelming and I won’t deny it.

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Embracing my Tutor Side

A week ago I was having a conversation with Karalee (Tales of Belle) about our children and she mentioned Kindergarden. Now I know I’m all-out protective mom and I will probably (means I will 100%) cry on the day my son would start school, I’m just too attached to him and it feels overwhelming seeing how fast he has grown, I’m not mentally prepared for this.

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Me: So where do we go from here ?
Son: This way
Me: And then ?
Son: Flower
Me: You can’t pass the walls
Son: Bee flies

Yeah, I didn’t expect that smart answer.

Enjoy the outdoors with this fun maze! Be sure to check out Education.com for more learning fun.

Recently I’ve been trying to spend more time with my son before I give birth because I don’t want him to feel left out since all the attention would be shifted to his new sibling. I’ve started reading bedtime stories to my son since he was around 4 months old, of course he wasn’t interested in the stories but he liked the characters and the colors in the storybooks. As he got older he started choosing which book to read on his own, connecting the characters to his favorite nursery rhymes.

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One of the methods I used for teaching my son the basics for example color and shapes, are educational toys and sometimes YouTube videos of his favorite characters. Of course the YouTube way needs to be supervised, you never know if your kid going to end in the dark side.

I feel like most of the things I listed so far are just excuses not to let my child start preschool, to be honest I was contacted by Education.com who provided me with the maze in the first picture and I’ve enjoyed the content and worksheets they listed on their website, and I’m not saying this because they reached out to me. I personally think the material I found on that website are very helpful for children same age as my son and it helped me bond with my son even more.

Exploring my tutor side was very interesting, it sparked creativity and imagination when I trigger his curiosity. It gave our conversation a new direction and it gets hilarious sometimes, my husband and I stare at each other confused when my son says something new every time and we’ve been enjoying it.

Teach your children to never stop exploring

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What They Don’t Tell You About Pregnancy

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Pregnancy is a beautiful journey where you discover your maternal side and all those pretty words they add in every book, article or even cards. I’ve had two pregnancies so far and I’ve experienced different effects in each pregnancy, so I can assure you each pregnancy is different. Along with this bright side of it, the perfect skin and hair obviously there’s a low side as well. Here’s the hard truths about pregnancy and what no one really told me when I got pregnant.

  • Stressing over maternity leave. If you are a working mom, maternity leave will be one of the your main concerns because you’ll be counting the days you’re allowed to have while getting paid or add a month or two unpaid. For example I’ve been counting the days I can take while accumulating my annual leave so I can add it after my maternity leave ends so I would have more time to spend with my kids. The whole matter is stressful on it’s own because it feels like I’m forcing myself to go to work while I’m tired and I need to rest.
  • The gross side. No one really told me about the gross and disgusting stuff that happens during pregnancy. The burping, the hiccups, passing gas and feeling your dignity fading away along with it. I’m afraid it might happen to me in public and I have no way of controlling this, it just happens at weird times unexpected.
  • Everyone likes to tell you about their experience. For some reason every lady wants to tell you about her experience in pregnancy whether it’s good or bad, and if you are a first time mom it might scare you.
  • Nine months is a bit too long. You start counting those nine months in weeks and 40 weeks sound easy to pass by but not really. Because you are waiting for those weeks to pass, it’ll seem much longer than it should be and each week just dragging the next one.
  • Heartburns. I HATE THEM and it sucks that I only get them at night before I sleep or I just suddenly wake up because of a heartburn. They make me miserable and I found out medicines that supposed to help you, don’t really work with me so ice cream became my best friend. They work instantly and helps with heartburns really fast so I always stock my freezer with different flavors so I wouldn’t get bored.

I love having kids, I don’t mind the pain from labor or childbirth because these only lasts at that moment but the whole nine month journey isn’t exactly my favorite chapter.

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