Comfort Is The Enemy of Progress

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It gets easier

or so I tell myself everyday …

Remember how hectic your life was when you had one child? I’ve always wondered how can moms manage themselves with multiple kids, I’m not sure how I have adapted to this life but my time management skills have greatly increased. While I was on my maternity leave, I still wanted to be productive in some way to my own benefit.

I’ve set a new motto for myself for the year 2019 which is “Comfort is the enemy of progress” I want to better myself instead of staying in my comfort zone, I’ve been in a positive mental state lately and it’s probably one of the reasons that made me think about improving myself. I’ve followed the technique of creating a habit for myself by utilizing my phone notifications on certain times to remind me to do that habit I’m planning to catch on if that makes sense, according to most of the self-help books and articles I read, you need about 21 days to form a habit. Did it work? Yes absolutely.

I can happily say that I started reading every day and from that, I thought of challenging myself to finish 20 books this year, hopefully, more if I could. Along with reading, I started to learn Japanese. It doesn’t come as a surprise to those who know me, I’ve been into the Japanese culture as long as I can remember and I don’t mean just from Anime. It’s always been a goal for me and I think it’s time that I get serious about it so I could at least say that I know how to read, write and speak three different languages.

I’ve been in a negative state of mind after my first pregnancy which I spoke about quite frequently in my older posts so learning from my mistakes before, I’m trying to get myself out of the “Isolated Parent” label. I started taking care of myself more without completely drowning myself in guilt that I’m leaving my children, for example, it’s ok to have my own time in the salon. It’s ok leaving my children with my in-laws even if I don’t always agree with them, it’s ok going out with my friends without overthinking about how my children are going to be without me during those couple of hours I’m away.

In terms of my anti-social side, I’ve been trying to get out of my shell. I became friends with a fellow blogger whom I enjoy reading her content Karalee, she’s the sweetest and I enjoy seeing the pictures she sends me of her daughter’s everyday life. It’s kind of refreshing to see how a person on the other side of the world would live their day-to-day life and how different it is from my everyday life. Speaking of the blogging community, I’m very happy to announce that one of my posts got approved to be in Positive Wellbeing Zine for Mums the third issue which I’m very excited about. It feels like a huge step for me to branch out my blogging activities somewhere and I hope it opens new opportunities for my blog to thrive.

 

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5 Things To Do While Breastfeeding

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It’s 3 a.m. and I’m sitting as straight as possible so I wouldn’t have any backache after I’m done feeding my child, I’ll still doze off few times. I try to reach my phone sometimes just to keep my eyes open while she’s done but that doesn’t always work, I always find myself dozing off all the sudden. Since feeding time is getting longer, I thought of ways I can keep myself occupied while breastfeeding and maybe keep me awake at night.

  • Watching YouTube and Netflix

Probably the easiest thing to do, open the apps from your phone and just watch a random video on YouTube or catch up with your favorite TV show on Netflix. I started watching Chilling Adventures of Sabrina recently and I’ve been enjoying it during feeding time, since the episodes are an hour long, I continue watching the episode throughout the day.

  • Reading a Book

I thought of setting for myself a goal to read at least 15 minutes every day because I stopped reading ever since I cancelled my subscription to OwlCrate, so I downloaded the Amazon Kindle app on my phone and got few free books since I have prime. I’m currently reading Suicide Forest by Jeremy Bates and I’ve been enjoying it so far, I highly recommend it if you’re into horror novels.

  • Talking to Friends

In my first pregnancy,  I went through postpartum depression and I’ve gave myself the label “Isolated Parent” because I’ve kept myself isolated under heaps and heaps of house chores, neglecting myself and my well-being. This time I’m keeping my social life, chatting with friends online or giving them a call. It helps releasing some stress, also venting and complaining with other moms.

  • Gaming

This one is tricky as I found gaming using a laptop would be hard when you play a game using keyboard and mouse because one hand would be free for gaming but the other one would be supporting the baby, so I’m suggesting a controller for this and using a nursing pillow to help support the baby and also help you keep your back straight.

  • Feed Yourself

Being a mom can be hectic, taking care of babies, cooking, cleaning and doing laundry, and like me you might forget to eat. While feeding the baby, how about feeding yourself as well and of course drinking plenty of water to stay hydrated throughout the day.

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Kindness

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We celebrate World Kindness Day on November 13th. It’s a day where people set aside their differences and practice love and compassion. There are many ways to show kindness, as simple as a warm smile or helping someone with their groceries. But what is giving kindness if you cannot teach it to others? Allow your little ones to join in on the event and practice kindness together. That’s why Personal Creations has put together printable random acts of kindness for kids.. From helping the environment printables to simple acts of kindness, these easy and adorable printables are the perfect activity to give back. For more inspiration check out the blog post here.

One of the first things our parents teach us as we grow up is being kind to others, I remember my parents telling me “Treat others how you want them to treat you” and I lived by this principle until I realize it’s actually flawed. Not everyone going to treat you with kindness regardless how nice you are to them, so I think you should be the better person and be kind without expecting something in return.

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get those cute printables from: https://www.personalcreations.com/blog/random-acts-of-kindness-for-kids

Teaching kids about kindness can start from saying “please” and “thank you”, to give and take. Being a parent, it starts with you being a perfect example and role model for your kids. Remember to encourage sharing and let them help around as its an act of kindness, and of course you could reward such behavior.

Don’t forget to be kind to yourself as well, try to take 5 minutes for you. Breath and sit in a calm place for while…

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Nursery Rhymes Lyrics Are Weird and Creepy

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I remember my mother singing for me when I was a baby “Baa baa black sheep” and “Mary, Mary, Quite Contrary”, those songs resided in me and I found myself as a mother now singing it to my own child. Slowly I started singing those nursery rhymes all the time by myself without no reason and of course it’s contagious so my husband was doing it as well.

The more I listened to those songs, the more I got confused on what the words actually mean, some don’t really make sense such as:

Three blind mice, three blind mice,
See how they run, see how they run,
They all ran after the farmer’s wife,
Who cut off their tails with a carving knife,
Did you ever see such a thing in your life,
As three blind mice?

I decided to research this song and I found out it’s based in English history. The ‘farmer’s wife’ refers to the daughter of King Henry VIII, Queen Mary I whose also known as Bloody Mary. Mary was a very committed Catholic and she forced her beliefs across the country. The ‘three blind mice’ were three noblemen who didn’t agree on her ways so they were convicted of plotting against the Queen but she did not have them dismembered and blinded as inferred in Three blind mice, instead they were burned at the stake. That was an interesting backstory to a children song ? Same as “Mary, Mary, Quite Contrary”, it also speaks about her and her violent rulings. You could read more about those two nursery rhymes here.

One of my son’s favorite songs is Skip to My Lou and reading about this song was a journey by itself. The song is a popular American partner-stealing dance from the 1840s.

“Skip to My Lou” is a simple game of stealing partners (or swapping partners as in square dancing). It begins with any number of couples skipping hand in hand around in a ring. A lone boy in the center of the moving circle of couples sings, “Lost my partner, what’ll I do?” as the girls whirl past him. The young man in the center hesitates while he decides which girl to choose, singing, “I’ll get another one just like you.” When he grasps the hand of his chosen one, the latter’s partner moves to the center of the ring the game. It is an ice-breaker, providing an opportunity for the participants to get acquainted with one another and to get into a good mood.

The “lou” in the title comes from the word “loo”, a Scottish word for “love”.

I’m confused, how is this a children’s song ?

Fly in the buttermilk, Shoo, fly, shoo

Is it a farming related song ?

There’s a little red wagon, Paint it blue

Uh why ?

Can’t get a red bird, Jay bird’ll do

…. okay ?

Cat’s in the cream jar, Ooh, ooh, ooh

Also animal abuse ?

It doesn’t really make sense to me how’s the lyrics correlate with each other basically. Maybe I’m reading too much in this but I’m sure some parents thought about this while singing to their children those songs.

I asked a fellow blogger Karalee (Tales of Belle) to chime in with her opinion since she’s a mom as well and here’s her opinion about this:

A lot of nursery rhymes seem to have a darker meaning, so I researched two my daughter likes: Brother John and London Bridge Is Falling Down. I grew up hearing Frère Jacques in French from my mother, and my daughter knows the English version Brother John. She likes singing “are you sleeping”, which made me wonder if there was a deeper meaning. The nursery rhyme is about a friar who overslept and he needs to ring the bells for the morning pray. The origin is believed to be about Frère Jacques Beaulie who was a Dominican friar in France. Other theories believe the nursery rhyme is about taunting Jews, Protestants, and Martin Luther and also mocking Dominican monks in France for their sloth and comfortable lifestyles. Even though the origin theories are not the brightest, the nursery rhyme itself does not have a dark meaning, which is a nice relief. Now for London Bridge Is Falling Down. I played the game while singing London Bridge as a kid and now I play the game with my daughter. The nursery rhyme is about rebuilding the London Bridge and how difficult it was bridging the River Thames. However, the theories about the origin are disturbing. One theory believes the nursery rhyme is about the destruction of the bridge by Olaf II of Norway while another theory believes children were sacrificed and buried in the foundation of the bridge to prevent it from collapsing. Luckily there is no evidence of children being sacrificed, but the thought is terrifying. A more plausible theory is that the nursery rhyme came about when the London Bridge was damaged by fire then eventually rebuilt and replaced. Even though the child sacrifice theory is disturbing, I am glad it is not proven and the nursery rhyme does not have a darker meaning. The lyrics for these two nursery rhymes are straightforward and do not have a dark meaning, but some of the origin theories are rather dark.

I’d love to know your thoughts about this, have you ever questioned the songs you sing for your children while the seemed innocent and pure ?

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Embracing my Tutor Side

A week ago I was having a conversation with Karalee (Tales of Belle) about our children and she mentioned Kindergarden. Now I know I’m all-out protective mom and I will probably (means I will 100%) cry on the day my son would start school, I’m just too attached to him and it feels overwhelming seeing how fast he has grown, I’m not mentally prepared for this.

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Me: So where do we go from here ?
Son: This way
Me: And then ?
Son: Flower
Me: You can’t pass the walls
Son: Bee flies

Yeah, I didn’t expect that smart answer.

Enjoy the outdoors with this fun maze! Be sure to check out Education.com for more learning fun.

Recently I’ve been trying to spend more time with my son before I give birth because I don’t want him to feel left out since all the attention would be shifted to his new sibling. I’ve started reading bedtime stories to my son since he was around 4 months old, of course he wasn’t interested in the stories but he liked the characters and the colors in the storybooks. As he got older he started choosing which book to read on his own, connecting the characters to his favorite nursery rhymes.

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One of the methods I used for teaching my son the basics for example color and shapes, are educational toys and sometimes YouTube videos of his favorite characters. Of course the YouTube way needs to be supervised, you never know if your kid going to end in the dark side.

I feel like most of the things I listed so far are just excuses not to let my child start preschool, to be honest I was contacted by Education.com who provided me with the maze in the first picture and I’ve enjoyed the content and worksheets they listed on their website, and I’m not saying this because they reached out to me. I personally think the material I found on that website are very helpful for children same age as my son and it helped me bond with my son even more.

Exploring my tutor side was very interesting, it sparked creativity and imagination when I trigger his curiosity. It gave our conversation a new direction and it gets hilarious sometimes, my husband and I stare at each other confused when my son says something new every time and we’ve been enjoying it.

Teach your children to never stop exploring

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Product of The Month

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We depend on technology in most aspects of our lives, we save our memories in our phones and devices not like old days when we used to go to photo shops with the negative strips to develop the photos not knowing if they actually look good or not. Of course those pictures we store occupy space and sometimes we are forced to erase them to have more space or the device itself can malfunction and delete everything. Keeping those disadvantages in mind, I decided to print out my son’s photos and keep them in a photo album so we can look back to those memories without using our phone and spend time trying to find that certain picture we had in mind.

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I use Canon SELPHY printer for that and that’s why I chose it as my product of the month. I love how the photos turned out in more of a physical form and I’ve enjoyed putting them in an album. The printer allows you to print through Wi-fi or plug a USB drive, it needs special glossy sheets obviously and I’ve noticed the ink finishes by 60 sheets. There are sizes you can choose from in the printer itself but I went for the classic postcard size to keep them in the appropriate fit album.

If you are looking for a reliable printer to use with your phone at the comfort of your home, I highly recommend this one.

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What They Don’t Tell You About Pregnancy

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Pregnancy is a beautiful journey where you discover your maternal side and all those pretty words they add in every book, article or even cards. I’ve had two pregnancies so far and I’ve experienced different effects in each pregnancy, so I can assure you each pregnancy is different. Along with this bright side of it, the perfect skin and hair obviously there’s a low side as well. Here’s the hard truths about pregnancy and what no one really told me when I got pregnant.

  • Stressing over maternity leave. If you are a working mom, maternity leave will be one of the your main concerns because you’ll be counting the days you’re allowed to have while getting paid or add a month or two unpaid. For example I’ve been counting the days I can take while accumulating my annual leave so I can add it after my maternity leave ends so I would have more time to spend with my kids. The whole matter is stressful on it’s own because it feels like I’m forcing myself to go to work while I’m tired and I need to rest.
  • The gross side. No one really told me about the gross and disgusting stuff that happens during pregnancy. The burping, the hiccups, passing gas and feeling your dignity fading away along with it. I’m afraid it might happen to me in public and I have no way of controlling this, it just happens at weird times unexpected.
  • Everyone likes to tell you about their experience. For some reason every lady wants to tell you about her experience in pregnancy whether it’s good or bad, and if you are a first time mom it might scare you.
  • Nine months is a bit too long. You start counting those nine months in weeks and 40 weeks sound easy to pass by but not really. Because you are waiting for those weeks to pass, it’ll seem much longer than it should be and each week just dragging the next one.
  • Heartburns. I HATE THEM and it sucks that I only get them at night before I sleep or I just suddenly wake up because of a heartburn. They make me miserable and I found out medicines that supposed to help you, don’t really work with me so ice cream became my best friend. They work instantly and helps with heartburns really fast so I always stock my freezer with different flavors so I wouldn’t get bored.

I love having kids, I don’t mind the pain from labor or childbirth because these only lasts at that moment but the whole nine month journey isn’t exactly my favorite chapter.

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