Remember how hectic your life was when you had one child? I’ve always wondered how can moms manage themselves with multiple kids, I’m not sure how I have adapted to this life but my time management skills have greatly increased. While I was on my maternity leave, I still wanted to be productive in some way to my own benefit.
I’ve set a new motto for myself for the year 2019 which is “Comfort is the enemy of progress” I want to better myself instead of staying in my comfort zone, I’ve been in a positive mental state lately and it’s probably one of the reasons that made me think about improving myself. I’ve followed the technique of creating a habit for myself by utilizing my phone notifications on certain times to remind me to do that habit I’m planning to catch on if that makes sense, according to most of the self-help books and articles I read, you need about 21 days to form a habit. Did it work? Yes absolutely.
I can happily say that I started reading every day and from that, I thought of challenging myself to finish 20 books this year, hopefully, more if I could. Along with reading, I started to learn Japanese. It doesn’t come as a surprise to those who know me, I’ve been into the Japanese culture as long as I can remember and I don’t mean just from Anime. It’s always been a goal for me and I think it’s time that I get serious about it so I could at least say that I know how to read, write and speak three different languages.
I’ve been in a negative state of mind after my first pregnancy which I spoke about quite frequently in my older posts so learning from my mistakes before, I’m trying to get myself out of the “Isolated Parent” label. I started taking care of myself more without completely drowning myself in guilt that I’m leaving my children, for example, it’s ok to have my own time in the salon. It’s ok leaving my children with my in-laws even if I don’t always agree with them, it’s ok going out with my friends without overthinking about how my children are going to be without me during those couple of hours I’m away.
In terms of my anti-social side, I’ve been trying to get out of my shell. I became friends with a fellow blogger whom I enjoy reading her content Karalee, she’s the sweetest and I enjoy seeing the pictures she sends me of her daughter’s everyday life. It’s kind of refreshing to see how a person on the other side of the world would live their day-to-day life and how different it is from my everyday life. Speaking of the blogging community, I’m very happy to announce that one of my posts got approved to be in Positive Wellbeing Zine for Mums the third issue which I’m very excited about. It feels like a huge step for me to branch out my blogging activities somewhere and I hope it opens new opportunities for my blog to thrive.
Stress is everywhere in today’s hectic society. From finding and keeping a job to paying bills on time to providing for a family, there are a million reasons to be stressed about money. And now, studies are showing increasing evidence that mental and physical health are linked — meaning our worries are wearing down our bodies.
The good news is that once people pay down debt and become more financially stable, they report feeling generally happier and healthier. Symptoms like muscle tension and digestive problems seem to lessen when people don’t have to worry about money. So start paying down debt and saving as much as you can — your mind and body will thank you. Not sure where to start? This infographic from Self Lender gives some ideas in the form of self care tips to help combat money stress.
My motherhood duties required me to take two months of unpaid leave, and of course that dragged the inconvenience of staying without an income for awhile. I’ll be starting work in a week and I have mixed feelings about it, I’m glad because I love working and staying busy yet I’m anxious about leaving my daughter. I’ve actually considered quitting my job and being a stay-at-home-mom but part of me doesn’t want to accept that. Being on an unpaid leave came with stress which I mentioned earlier, here are some of the ways that helped me survive those months:
I mean it’s an obvious thing to say. I managed to save enough money to pay for my car installments for those two months.
Consider using paid off days
During my pregnancy days, I’ve been saving up my off days so I can make my maternity leave longer and get paid each month.
Ask Family Members for Help
I’ve depended on my husband for probably most of the things I needed, obviously financially. Don’t be afraid to ask family members for help whether you needed someone to help you babysit or lightly used baby supplies.
Take a Temporary Part-time Job
I like making friendship bracelets, they keep me busy. I decided to sell them on Instagram and it’s been helping me through the weeks thankfully.
What are your strategies in surviving unpaid leaves ? I would love to know what do you think.
It’s 3 a.m. and I’m sitting as straight as possible so I wouldn’t have any backache after I’m done feeding my child, I’ll still doze off few times. I try to reach my phone sometimes just to keep my eyes open while she’s done but that doesn’t always work, I always find myself dozing off all the sudden. Since feeding time is getting longer, I thought of ways I can keep myself occupied while breastfeeding and maybe keep me awake at night.
Watching YouTube and Netflix
Probably the easiest thing to do, open the apps from your phone and just watch a random video on YouTube or catch up with your favorite TV show on Netflix. I started watching Chilling Adventures of Sabrina recently and I’ve been enjoying it during feeding time, since the episodes are an hour long, I continue watching the episode throughout the day.
Reading a Book
I thought of setting for myself a goal to read at least 15 minutes every day because I stopped reading ever since I cancelled my subscription to OwlCrate, so I downloaded the Amazon Kindle app on my phone and got few free books since I have prime. I’m currently reading Suicide Forest by Jeremy Bates and I’ve been enjoying it so far, I highly recommend it if you’re into horror novels.
Talking to Friends
In my first pregnancy, I went through postpartum depression and I’ve gave myself the label “Isolated Parent” because I’ve kept myself isolated under heaps and heaps of house chores, neglecting myself and my well-being. This time I’m keeping my social life, chatting with friends online or giving them a call. It helps releasing some stress, also venting and complaining with other moms.
This one is tricky as I found gaming using a laptop would be hard when you play a game using keyboard and mouse because one hand would be free for gaming but the other one would be supporting the baby, so I’m suggesting a controller for this and using a nursing pillow to help support the baby and also help you keep your back straight.
Being a mom can be hectic, taking care of babies, cooking, cleaning and doing laundry, and like me you might forget to eat. While feeding the baby, how about feeding yourself as well and of course drinking plenty of water to stay hydrated throughout the day.
We celebrate World Kindness Day on November 13th. It’s a day where people set aside their differences and practice love and compassion. There are many ways to show kindness, as simple as a warm smile or helping someone with their groceries. But what is giving kindness if you cannot teach it to others? Allow your little ones to join in on the event and practice kindness together. That’s why Personal Creations has put together printable random acts of kindness for kids.. From helping the environment printables to simple acts of kindness, these easy and adorable printables are the perfect activity to give back. For more inspiration check out the blog post here.
One of the first things our parents teach us as we grow up is being kind to others, I remember my parents telling me “Treat others how you want them to treat you” and I lived by this principle until I realize it’s actually flawed. Not everyone going to treat you with kindness regardless how nice you are to them, so I think you should be the better person and be kind without expecting something in return.
Teaching kids about kindness can start from saying “please” and “thank you”, to give and take. Being a parent, it starts with you being a perfect example and role model for your kids. Remember to encourage sharing and let them help around as its an act of kindness, and of course you could reward such behavior.
Don’t forget to be kind to yourself as well, try to take 5 minutes for you. Breath and sit in a calm place for while…
In the past three weeks, I’ve been quite hectic trying to balance my life with two kids. With a new family addition, comes greetings, gifts and visitors. It’s something I can’t really control, a lot of people came to visit me and of course we are talking about family members, friends even neighbors. I’m grateful don’t get me wrong but there are certain types of visitors that I cannot tolerate.
The ones that shows up without a warning
I absolutely hate it when someone just shows up like that without letting me know, and it happened plenty of times while I was sleeping in my first week after giving birth. I’m really tired and barely sleeping from the baby crying along with the aches that comes after birth from stitches and back aches. I’m supposed to wake up and smile for them when I’m supposed to spend my time resting and healing ?
The ones that come at wrong times
I hate when guests texts you that they are coming at a certain time because that’s convenient for them only not for me, for example couple of guests came early in the morning. I’m supposed to bathe my baby and then feed her so she won’t cry while I go to take a shower and be ready for those guests. Sometimes I can’t be ready on time if my baby wants to feed longer or randomly cries because she needs cuddles and hugs, and that stresses me out.
The ones that stay for too long
I’m already trying to manage my time in dealing with two kids, some guests don’t understand that I cant sit with them for long and it gets awkward when I leave to feed my daughter and they just sit there in the living room apparently waiting for me. Keep your visit short and understand that I can’t be with you for long when I’m needed by my child more.
The ones that like to comment about your choice of the baby name
Mostly older people would do this, they’ll comment about the name you chose for your baby like their opinion is very important. I feel names are more of a personal choice between the parents and others should understand that.
The ones that keeps commenting about the baby
“oh the baby is crying, it must be because she’s hungry”
Thanks for telling me, I didn’t know that
Those know it all just irritates me, clearly stating the obvious. I know my child has colic, I know she’s crying because she’s either hungry or her diaper is dirty, or her tummy hurts. It may sound silly to others but it does irritates me for some reason.
Well it’s been a while since I last posted, I actually forgot how to use WordPress by this point.
On 22nd of September, I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. Now I can officially call myself a mom of two and be proud of it. I needed to take some time away from blogging and spend less time on social media so I can adapt myself to this new chapter of my life. It was a rather tiring and exhausting experience, and I wouldn’t compare it to my first pregnancy at all. It was hard and I want to say I’m done with having kids but I know I will forget all the pain I went through and say “I miss being pregnant“
We decided to name her the moment she took her first breath after choosing two potential names, seeing her face made the choice easier. I do enjoy buying more pink and girly outfits after getting used to buying for my son for nearly 3 years, should be fun getting those cute dresses later when she’s older.
My son took few days to get used to having a sibling but he’s been very caring and thoughtful with her. I remember going in to the room after getting her bath ready and seeing my son laying next to her and talking to her, it was a very beautiful moment for me to witness.
I’m scheduling ahead few more posts and of course I’m going to insert few gaming ones in between, hopefully get back to my old blog schedule routine if I can.
I love blogging, it helps me express my thoughts through words and maybe someone out there would love to read. I felt pretty empty in the past week when I didn’t schedule any post for the blog, it really became part of my life at this point. I’m currently in my 37th week and I’m just exhausted, I’m on the verge on trying any way to induce labor. It’s been quite hectic to find time to blog and this is why I thought of writing this post. I’ve been asked about it a lot to be honest, how do I have the time to balance between blogging, being a mother and gaming.
Force a “Me Time”
It’s a ritual I live by, I have to have my Me Time. Being a mother can be exhausting and naturally you feel all your time and energy is poured into taking care of your children. I plan my Me Time ahead, it usually includes candle lit baths and a resting face mask obviously. If it wasn’t too late, I usually start gaming and try to limit the time so I wouldn’t go to work with my zombie sleep deprived face.
List blog topic ideas in notes
When It comes to blogging, trying to find content that fits the niche of my blog can be a struggle sometimes. I try to mix up posts between motherhood related ones and videogames when I schedule two posts a week. I usually write down the ideas in an app in my phone or open a blank post and save the title in drafts till I get the time to write the content.
Plan your gaming time when kids are sleeping or not around
So when it comes to gaming, I usually start gaming when my son sleeps or he’s out with my husband or in laws. It gives me that window to game without any interruption specially that my son is old enough to sleep through the night. My problem with this though, I sometimes lose track of time when I game at night so I end up sleeping late.
Blogging is a venting outlet not a chore
When it comes to blogging, some bloggers post twice or thrice a week and sometimes the content on these posts sound like they are forced and doesn’t capture the reader’s attention which is why I’m saying I don’t want to make blogging as a chore. I really enjoy it and I feel happy that I was consistent in posting twice a week before. Take it from me, blog when you feel like it and don’t force yourself to do it just because traffic and numbers look attractive to you.
Use motherhood moments as an inspiration for future posts
I’ve been getting emails from ladies saying they appreciate my honesty when it comes to motherhood related posts and it really made me happy. I love using my own experiences and my own mistakes as an inspiration in posts, it gives my entries more of a realistic view about motherhood. No one is perfect, we all learn and grow from those moments we have in life and I enjoy sharing them in my posts to whoever feels or experienced the same.
Use your personal view on a game rather than trying to make it sound and look professional
When I want to post a game related entry, I try to include my own personal feelings because I really don’t want to sound like I’m trying to be a professional IGN reviewer, it also shows how passionate you are. It’s easy to fall in that trap when you start researching about the game and then try to imitate how they wrote the review, this is why I enjoy it more and even if I don’t hit 400 words mark at least I wrote what I thought about the game.
I hope these points help any blogger or mother who’s struggling with balancing life, it’s all about time management. It’s alright to make mistakes, being a mother is overwhelming and I won’t deny it.