3 Things That Makes Me Happy

The definition of happiness varies from person to person, while I honestly consider it as a temporary feeling or bless, as some would say, I still carve a mental note in my mind saying ‘proceed with caution’. We all hate disappointments –while we try to get over the recent Moz update- so we find a coping strategy and techniques to find our desired happiness. This post is part of a collaboration with the lovely Karalee from Tales of Belle be sure to check out her post.

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  • Reading
    I read a line in a book recently –which I conveniently forgot the name of- that goes like this “Read the first page of a book, if you can’t stop continue till you can” and it resided with me. You know it’s a good book if you can’t stop reading it but you also can’t judge a book from the first page so you continue reading it past the first page anyway, that’s why I think it’s cleverly placed in symbolism.
  • Discovering a new hobby
    Our priorities seem to shift as we grow older, being adults has made our attention mostly focuses on our families, careers, personal achievements and we strayed from our hobbies that we enjoyed when we were younger. I find that self-discovery journey to enjoy a hobby one more time very liberating, let alone finding something new that we might actually enjoy, for example, I did not know I liked those crafty projects until I began creating something simple as a friendship bracelet and now I find myself wanting to learn how to create small figurines using resin.
  • Music
    I don’t like to consider myself old but I refuse to update my 10-year-old playlist, Britney Spears and Spice Girls songs still make me happy. On serious note music in general makes me happy not just “Oops I Did It Again” I’m held at gunpoint by an angst teenage me to post this. I appreciate music in all genres.

I’m pretty sure I have plenty of other happiness-inducing methods but I had these in mind since they are on the top shelf of the happy pills, let me know what are yours.

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YouTube & Toddlers

I’ve been sitting on this topic for a while as I’ve been hearing and reading a lot of opinions regarding it, from the title you could guess that I would be talking about YouTube.

Before having children, I was telling myself what kind of a parent I wanted to be whether I can achieve it or not, I still wanted to try. I wanted to be there for my children, I would quit my job and stay with them if I had to, and honestly, I’m planning to. One of the things I noticed that parents do is introducing tablets to children at an early age as some sort of distraction or entertainment which for the most part works in keeping them occupied for a while but it sometimes stretch out to extended hours and the child would just stay sitting watching for hours.

I watch YouTube pretty much daily, I’m aware of the community, space, the changes that keep happening and of course I’m aware of the creepy videos that kept popping up on YouTube that targetted children with its supposedly innocent nature and loveable characters. Sadly, not a lot of parents know this and it ends up badly when their children would stumble upon those said videos. Now I partially would blame the parents for leaving their children unattended to be watching YouTube to the point that they would reach those creepy videos, same goes with video games when they blame games that affect children whether it’s a violent game or scary which can traumatize the child yet as a parent I’m pretty sure it’s our mission or job to raise our children well which means keeping our attention on our children.

YouTube educational videos can help children in preschool age to learn the ABCs, numbers or even colors and those are very helpful and a great aid. But I also think that parents should monitor what children are ingesting from those videos. Which is why I decided to include one of my favorite websites that I mentioned before in a post that offers worksheets for children from an early age till 5th grade.

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For more educational resources, visit Education.com. There’re plenty of printable worksheets to choose from for free, my son enjoys tracing letters and the coloring ones. It helps me bond with him more while I teach him. You can check them out @education_com on Pinterest and Twitter.

 

nomakenolife – Feburary 2019

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Yay new subscription box to try.

I’ve always been a fan of Korean and Japanese beauty products, I tried Kira Kira Crate before and I absolutely loved it. I decided to try nomakenolife -odd name I know- since I recently canceled my subscription to YumeTwins.

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Crayon Touch me Lip Gloss in Shiny Orange (Japan)

I feel so giddy seeing a lip gloss, it’s been such a long time since I used one. The shade is a subtle orange shade which goes perfectly on top of any lipstick color and gives it an extra shine.

Sparkling Eye Gloss in honey gold (Japan)

Eye glosses make life easier, they are easy to apply and work with. The shade is golden-champagne with a pretty shimmer, can be used as a base along with other eyeshadows as it blends really well.

Etude House Eyebrow Pencil (Korea)

This pencil came at the perfect time, I’ve been needing one to define and fill my eyebrows and this pencil does this function pretty well. I never really tried Etude House products so this would be an introduction to me, so far I can say I like it.

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Cotton Pads (100pcs) (Korea)

I use cotton pads for a lot of things, makeup removing or nail polish so it’s a pretty useful pack.

Savon De Chocolate Soap (Japan)

This soap is a whole different level, it actually looks and smells like hot chocolate, if I didn’t read the package I would have ate it already. It smells so good and I was afraid to eat-I mean use it, it’s creamy and it left my skin moisturized and hydrated.

Fascy Moisture Bomb Hand Cream (Korean)

I love keeping hand creams in my bag, and this cream came in my favorite scent which is peach. I really love the smell, it’s also very lightweighted and not runny like the usual hand creams I tried before.

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G9Skin Milk Bomb Face Mask in Chocolate (Korean)

Again something with chocolate and it smells so delicious. I love Korean sheet masks, I always use them as the perfect ending of the day when my kids sleep and I have time to pamper myself. The mask left my skin hydrated and smooth, I would totally buy more of these.

Flower Puff in Pink

The last item is a powder puff that comes with a pretty flower on top where the applicator strap is, it’s soft which is great to be used with foundation or loose powder. Honestly, it looks too pretty to be used.

Overall, I have mixed feelings about this because I like some items and I feel they fit the theme and some don’t, like the cotton pads but I enjoyed most of the box items and I would continue my subscription for a while.

Comfort Is The Enemy of Progress

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It gets easier

or so I tell myself everyday …

Remember how hectic your life was when you had one child? I’ve always wondered how can moms manage themselves with multiple kids, I’m not sure how I have adapted to this life but my time management skills have greatly increased. While I was on my maternity leave, I still wanted to be productive in some way to my own benefit.

I’ve set a new motto for myself for the year 2019 which is “Comfort is the enemy of progress” I want to better myself instead of staying in my comfort zone, I’ve been in a positive mental state lately and it’s probably one of the reasons that made me think about improving myself. I’ve followed the technique of creating a habit for myself by utilizing my phone notifications on certain times to remind me to do that habit I’m planning to catch on if that makes sense, according to most of the self-help books and articles I read, you need about 21 days to form a habit. Did it work? Yes absolutely.

I can happily say that I started reading every day and from that, I thought of challenging myself to finish 20 books this year, hopefully, more if I could. Along with reading, I started to learn Japanese. It doesn’t come as a surprise to those who know me, I’ve been into the Japanese culture as long as I can remember and I don’t mean just from Anime. It’s always been a goal for me and I think it’s time that I get serious about it so I could at least say that I know how to read, write and speak three different languages.

I’ve been in a negative state of mind after my first pregnancy which I spoke about quite frequently in my older posts so learning from my mistakes before, I’m trying to get myself out of the “Isolated Parent” label. I started taking care of myself more without completely drowning myself in guilt that I’m leaving my children, for example, it’s ok to have my own time in the salon. It’s ok leaving my children with my in-laws even if I don’t always agree with them, it’s ok going out with my friends without overthinking about how my children are going to be without me during those couple of hours I’m away.

In terms of my anti-social side, I’ve been trying to get out of my shell. I became friends with a fellow blogger whom I enjoy reading her content Karalee, she’s the sweetest and I enjoy seeing the pictures she sends me of her daughter’s everyday life. It’s kind of refreshing to see how a person on the other side of the world would live their day-to-day life and how different it is from my everyday life. Speaking of the blogging community, I’m very happy to announce that one of my posts got approved to be in Positive Wellbeing Zine for Mums the third issue which I’m very excited about. It feels like a huge step for me to branch out my blogging activities somewhere and I hope it opens new opportunities for my blog to thrive.

 

Makeup Haul

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I’m trying to remember when was the last time I actually bought makeup, it’s been quite some time. Last year I was pregnant and I didn’t bother wearing makeup during that long journey, so I can safely say my makeup products were expired. After throwing most of them, I finally bought new items that I’m very excited to share my experience in a long-waited makeup post.

Maybelline Superstay 24H Setting Spray

I forgot to include this spray in the picture, I apologize for that. I’ve been a fan of Urban Decay All Nighter setting spray and it’s probably the only one I used ever since I learned how to properly do makeup so trying something new was a huge step for me.  One of the things I hated in Urban Decay’s setting spray would be the smell, I’m glad to say that this spray doesn’t have that smell which I appreciate. The spray locked my makeup the entire time I was at work and may I add it’s also matte-fying, so I’m going to give it 10 extra points for that.

NYX Lip Lingerie (Embellishment & Cashmere Silk)

Now I know I have almost 100 nude shade already but is it ever enough? I can call myself a certified nude lipstick collector from the amount of lipsticks I have. I got two shades from the Lingerie line which are 02 Embellishment and 18 Cashmere Silk. Embellishment is mostly purple but it’s not that intense, as it’s described as a muted purple. I wouldn’t really wear it everyday for example work but I would wear it if I’m going out with my friends if I’m thinking to be a little bit extra and I needed some attention. While Cashmere Silk is mostly beige with a slight visible pink which I can tell you my favorite nude shade and I’ve been wearing it to work recently. The formula of these lipsticks is very creamy and it’s definitely long-lasting, it stayed in place for hours and didn’t smudge after it dried on my lips.

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Maybelline Master Contour V-Shape Duo Stick

I’ve never really used sticks for contouring so this would be my first time, and it made me convert. It’s very easy to apply on the areas you want to contour from both sides of the stick and since it’s very creamy I used a contour brush to blend it,  and it came out looking nice on my face.

MAC Mineralize Skinfinish Highlighter (Soft & Gentle)

I never thought that I’ll reach the day that I’ll buy something from MAC, I’ve always viewed this brand as luxurious and out of my league. This highlighter was recommended to me by my cousin so I decided to get it in Soft & Gentle shade because it looked more natural for me to apply as I don’t like glowing like I’m one of the vampires from Twilight movies. I am insanely in love with it already, it’s the perfect finish I need for my look as it gives that subtle shimmer and glow.

Maybelline Instant Age Rewind Eraser Dark Circles Treatment Concealer

I didn’t really depend on concealers before, so now that I have a baby my dark circles are showing generously from the lack of continuous sleep. I chose this concealer because it claims to be a treatment as well for fine lines and dark circles, and it does fulfill that purpose of erasing dark circles under the eyes. It’s easy to blend with a brush or a blender.

L’Oréal False Lash X-Fiber Mascara

I usually avoid those two step mascaras because part of me thinks they are just a glorified normal mascaras that charge more, I only got it because my sister recommended it to me and also I wanted to test out the Fiber side of it. The mascara is double sided, the first step works as a black primer which thickens the lashes with volume then the second step comes to lengthen the lash with fibers and give the lash more of a long lush fix. I think I’m fine with using the first step wand as a mascara and that’s it, the second step adds fibers and it can slowly fall around the eye to be honest so I wouldn’t say it’s the best mascara I tried.

Overall, I honestly missed shopping for makeup like this. Hopefully I’ll keep this momentum and post more makeup related entries, hope you enjoyed this post and have a nice day.

Wireless Car Charger Mount (DesertWest) Review

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If we are being honest, being a parent makes your multi-tasking skill level up instantly. You could be doing simultaneous things at the same time while keeping your attention on the children, I could honestly say that I learned I could be using one hand for various things while holding the baby with the second hand. It gets hectic though while you are driving and having two children, and I tend to avoid using my phone but sometimes I have to use the Map or GPS apps to know where I’m going and it’s pretty dangerous to hold your phone while driving in general. I was considering getting a phone mount that could hold my phone while driving instead of getting it from my side and keeping my eyes off the road.

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The mount itself is pretty sturdy and held my phone firmly, it didn’t budge till I pressed a button from the back to release the side. The mount can be rotated and moved from side to side using a ball jointed part which I appreciate because I can switch from horizontal to vertical view.

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The mount held on the air vents and it has two gears as shown in the picture to choose from (I. 2mm and II. 1mm) So you could choose how tight it’ll hold the air vents.

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My phone doesn’t support wireless charging so I had to use my sister’s iPhone X to test it out, be sure to check if your phone supports wireless charging before ordering the product. The mount has an opening to plug the USB wire, can be used if your car has a USB opening or you can plug it to a power bank. Charging-wise, I could consider it fast enough definitely not slow. My only problem with this product is the wires, I think it looks messy but it might be just me not knowing how to manage it.

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Considering my phone doesn’t support wireless charging, I think the mount alone is useful for me. I think it’s a great charger and very useful, sadly I wouldn’t use the “charger” side of it.

Surviving an Unpaid Maternity Leave

Stress is everywhere in today’s hectic society. From finding and keeping a job to paying bills on time to providing for a family, there are a million reasons to be stressed about money. And now, studies are showing increasing evidence that mental and physical health are linked — meaning our worries are wearing down our bodies.

The good news is that once people pay down debt and become more financially stable, they report feeling generally happier and healthier. Symptoms like muscle tension and digestive problems seem to lessen when people don’t have to worry about money. So start paying down debt and saving as much as you can — your mind and body will thank you. Not sure where to start? This infographic from Self Lender gives some ideas in the form of self care tips to help combat money stress.

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My motherhood duties required me to take two months of unpaid leave, and of course that dragged the inconvenience of staying without an income for awhile. I’ll be starting work in a week and I have mixed feelings about it, I’m glad because I love working and staying busy yet I’m anxious about leaving my daughter. I’ve actually considered quitting my job and being a stay-at-home-mom but part of me doesn’t want to accept that. Being on an unpaid leave came with stress which I mentioned earlier, here are some of the ways that helped me survive those months:

  • Saving Money

I mean it’s an obvious thing to say. I managed to save enough money to pay for my car installments for those two months.

  • Consider using paid off days

During my pregnancy days, I’ve been saving up my off days so I can make my maternity leave longer and get paid each month.

  • Ask Family Members for Help

I’ve depended on my husband for probably most of the things I needed, obviously financially. Don’t be afraid to ask family members for help whether you needed someone to help you babysit or lightly used baby supplies.

  • Take a Temporary Part-time Job

I like making friendship bracelets, they keep me busy. I decided to sell them on Instagram and it’s been helping me through the weeks thankfully.


What are your strategies in surviving unpaid leaves ? I would love to know what do you think.