What They Don’t Tell You About Hair Extenstions

So you’re thinking of getting extensions and hopefully doing extensive research before going forward with it.  I decided to write this post as a follow up for my previous post about keratin bonded extensions about everything you should know about them in more details because I recently removed my extensions.

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  • Itchy Feeling

This irritated me the most because I had to wash my hair more frequently than I’m used to and it’s not exactly convenient for a mom since I normally shower fast. By time, my scalp was getting irritated from the weather as well, I can’t exactly scratch comfortably because you can feel the notes where the extensions are.

  • Changing Hair Care Routine

I hate change, when I’m comfortable with a routine PLEASE don’t make me change it. Having extensions makes you change everything when it comes to hair care, the products you use, the time you spend washing your hair, how do you style it. Even when your hair gets a little bit sweat from the summer heat or even at the gym, you have to wash your hair and blowdry it right after which was such a hustle for me because I normally air-dryed my hair.

  • Brush, brush, brush

After getting a special brush for my extensions, I kept getting annoyed that I have to brush my hair while avoiding the notes where the hair and extensions connect. I wanted to brush my hair fully from roots to tips without dealing with the apparent road bumps.

  • They’ll show … Eventually

By time, your hair grows out and the extensions will show so you’ll have to change the way you style your hair to blend them which goes back to my second point “I HATE CHANGE”, there’s a certain way I like my hair to be and I’m comfortable not changing it.

I kept my lovely extensions in a bag in the closet, maybe someday I’ll attach them again when the weather is less humid and not too hot, probably grow out my hair more so it’ll blend better since my hair is shoulder-length at the moment. Until then, the only extensions I’ll be keeping are my lashes, those I can’t live without.

 

 

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Woman Last Seen In Her Thirties – Book Review

Following the previous oh-so-long ago post, I’ll start posting reviews of each book I read for the 2019 reading challenge individually because I need to convince myself that I can still blog.

At fifty-three, Maggie Harris has a good marriage and two mostly happy children. Perpetually anxious, she’s also accumulated a list of semi-reasonable fears: falling air conditioners, the IRS, identity theft, skydiving, and airbag recalls. But never once did Maggie worry that her husband of nearly thirty years would leave her.

On the day Adam walks out the door, everything that makes Maggie secure goes with him. Only then does she realize that while she’s been busy caring for everyone else, she’s become invisible to the world—and to herself.

Maggie cautiously begins to rebuild her life with a trip to Rome, a new career, and even a rebound romance. But when a fresh crisis strikes and an uncertain future looms, she must decide: How much will she risk to remain the woman she’s just become?

 I once read that the recipe for a good life had but three ingredients: something to do, someone to love, and something to look forward to.

This would be my second book to read from the author Camille Pagán and I have to say that I enjoyed it more than the first one (Life and Other Near-Death Experiences). I absolutely love her writing style, it screams ‘relatable’ to me because the words bleed from how vulnerable the main character is and how she unravels layer by layer as the story progresses. Her personality, what made me like the book even more, as a mom of two myself I find myself giving my all to my family, I put their happiness and well-being before mine and I think it’s quite common between us moms since we are naturally considered the “fixers” or the “nurtures”.

The book is narrated by my favorite narrator Amy McFadden, her voice brought Maggie’s personality in a more elaborate tone and rounded the character development from invisible and vulnerable to confident by the ending. I could say it’s almost the same as “Eat Pray Love” and “The Bridget Jones Diaries” in terms of self-discovery. I would recommend it even though some would consider it as a Chick Lit, it’s very entertaining and I love Camille’s way of injecting humor in her books.

My Rating ⭐⭐⭐⭐

 

 

2019 Reading Challenge

Before I start this post, let’s address the elephant in the … blogging community. If you are a blogger you already know all about SEO, Moz and other alphabetical terms I’m sure I’m supposed to know. Recently Moz Domain Authority algorithms got updated and we all dropped and I honestly felt quite discouraged to continue blogging. It’s heartbreaking to see your two years worth of word vomit -Posts Rei, it’s called posts- not really going anywhere. I took some time away from my blog, and I was thinking to delete my whole blog and restart. The idea is still there but for now, I’ll try to slowly return to blogging, and for this so-called comeback I chose my favorite topic “Books”

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By the end of last year, I bought a Kindle and it’s been my favorite device. It immensely increased my time spent in reading which I’ve been doing in work, in a salon, even while breastfeeding. I’ve set the number 20 as my reading challenge goal for 2019 and I’ve read 18 so far, so I’m almost there which feels great of course.

Libby Miller has always been an unwavering optimist – but when her husband drops a bomb on their marriage the same day a doctor delivers devastating news, she realizes her rose-colored glasses have actually been blinding her.

With nothing left to lose, she abandons her life in Chicago for the clear waters and bright beaches of the Caribbean for what might be her last hurrah. Despite her new sunny locale, her plans go awry when she finds that she can’t quite outrun the past or bring herself to face an unknowable future. Every day of tropical bliss may be an invitation to disaster, but with her twin brother on her trail and a new relationship on the horizon, Libby is determined to forget about fate. Will she risk it all to live – and love – a little longer?

The first book I finished would be Life and Other Near-Death Experiences by Camille Pagán. I remember getting this book on my Kindle because it was free by that time and I wanted a light read (It’s still free for Kindle). Not sure if I would consider “cancer” as a light material for a book but it gave some explanation to the behavior of the characters, while I would say the story seem a bit predictable. I was listening to this book on my way to work and I have to say the narrator (Amy McFadden) made it very enjoyable, she portrayed the main character (Libby) attitude in talking and thinking perfectly. The writing style is very raw and it’s injected with humor which the author is known for, I did enjoy the book but I thought some parts didn’t make sense to me like how she was dealing with her husband when he was clearly going through a lot already.

My Rating: ⭐⭐⭐

Kate Harker is a girl who isn’t afraid of the dark. She’s a girl who hunts monsters. And she’s good at it. August Flynn is a monster who can never be human. No matter how much he once yearned for it. He has a part to play. And he will play it, no matter the cost.

Nearly six months after Kate and August were first thrown together, the war between the monsters and the humans is a terrifying reality. In Verity, August has become the leader he never wished to be, and in Prosperity, Kate has become the ruthless hunter she knew she could be. When a new monster emerges from the shadows—one who feeds on chaos and brings out its victim’s inner demons—it lures Kate home, where she finds more than she bargained for. She’ll face a monster she thought she killed, a boy she thought she knew, and a demon all her own.

“Because she knew a secret: there were two kinds of monsters, the kind that hunted the streets and the kind that lived in your head. She could fight the first, but the second was more dangerous. It was always, always, always a step ahead.”

Our Dark Duet is the sequel and conclusion of the first book “This Savage Song” which I got a couple of years ago in OwlCrate. I absolutely loved the first book so I was very excited to read the second, it was much lengthier and I loved every minute of it. I went through a rollercoaster of emotions with these two books, the ending left me breathless and I want to say not fair but I could understand why it happened. I’m definitely calling this story as my favorite and it made the author Victoria Schwab my favorite as well, I would love to read more of her books.

My Rating ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

A heart to protect. A debt to repay. A game to win.

After being swept up in the magical world of Caraval, Donatella Dragna has finally escaped her father and saved her sister Scarlett from a disastrous arranged marriage. The girls should be celebrating, but Tella isn’t yet free. She made a desperate bargain with a mysterious criminal, and what Tella owes him no one has ever been able to deliver: Caraval Master Legend’s true name.

The only chance of uncovering Legend’s identity is to win Caraval, so Tella throws herself into the legendary competition once more―and into the path of the murderous heir to the throne, a doomed love story, and a web of secrets…including her sister’s. Caraval has always demanded bravery, cunning, and sacrifice. But now the game is asking for more. If Tella can’t fulfill her bargain and deliver Legend’s name, she’ll lose everything she cares about―maybe even her life. But if she wins, Legend and Caraval will be destroyed forever.

Welcome, welcome to Caraval…the games have only just begun.

“Not everyone gets a true ending. There are two types of endings because most people give up at the part of the story where things are the worst, where the situation feels hopeless. But that’s when hope is needed most. only those who persevere can find their true ending.”

I didn’t think I would enjoy the second book more than the first one, and it’s like the previous book I mentioned, I got the first book in OwlCrate before and I liked it to the point I purchased the second book. I loved Tella’s personality more than Scarlett’s and as reckless as she is, she actually makes better decisions than her sister – In the first book, I meant. One of my guilty pleasures is the description of the gowns and dresses they’ve been wearing, I would love to see them in real life and probably wear some – definitely all, not some-. I instantly pre-ordered the third book the moment I finished reading it and I can’t wait to see how the ending will play out, quite literally.

My Rating ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

Wow, it’s been a while since I wrote such a long post, it feels great to return to blogging. I’ll stop with three books in this post and I’ll write three more in the upcoming posts for sure. Let me know what are your favorite books you’ve been reading lately.

3 Things That Makes Me Happy

The definition of happiness varies from person to person, while I honestly consider it as a temporary feeling or bless, as some would say, I still carve a mental note in my mind saying ‘proceed with caution’. We all hate disappointments –while we try to get over the recent Moz update- so we find a coping strategy and techniques to find our desired happiness. This post is part of a collaboration with the lovely Karalee from Tales of Belle be sure to check out her post.

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  • Reading

    I read a line in a book recently –which I conveniently forgot the name of- that goes like this “Read the first page of a book, if you can’t stop continue till you can” and it resided with me. You know it’s a good book if you can’t stop reading it but you also can’t judge a book from the first page so you continue reading it past the first page anyway, that’s why I think it’s cleverly placed in symbolism.
  • Discovering a new hobby

    Our priorities seem to shift as we grow older, being adults has made our attention mostly focuses on our families, careers, personal achievements and we strayed from our hobbies that we enjoyed when we were younger. I find that self-discovery journey to enjoy a hobby one more time very liberating, let alone finding something new that we might actually enjoy, for example, I did not know I liked those crafty projects until I began creating something simple as a friendship bracelet and now I find myself wanting to learn how to create small figurines using resin.
  • Music

    I don’t like to consider myself old but I refuse to update my 10-year-old playlist, Britney Spears and Spice Girls songs still make me happy. On serious note music in general makes me happy not just “Oops I Did It Again” I’m held at gunpoint by an angst teenage me to post this. I appreciate music in all genres.

I’m pretty sure I have plenty of other happiness-inducing methods but I had these in mind since they are on the top shelf of the happy pills, let me know what are yours.

YouTube & Toddlers

I’ve been sitting on this topic for a while as I’ve been hearing and reading a lot of opinions regarding it, from the title you could guess that I would be talking about YouTube.

Before having children, I was telling myself what kind of a parent I wanted to be whether I can achieve it or not, I still wanted to try. I wanted to be there for my children, I would quit my job and stay with them if I had to, and honestly, I’m planning to. One of the things I noticed that parents do is introducing tablets to children at an early age as some sort of distraction or entertainment which for the most part works in keeping them occupied for a while but it sometimes stretch out to extended hours and the child would just stay sitting watching for hours.

I watch YouTube pretty much daily, I’m aware of the community, space, the changes that keep happening and of course I’m aware of the creepy videos that kept popping up on YouTube that targetted children with its supposedly innocent nature and loveable characters. Sadly, not a lot of parents know this and it ends up badly when their children would stumble upon those said videos. Now I partially would blame the parents for leaving their children unattended to be watching YouTube to the point that they would reach those creepy videos, same goes with video games when they blame games that affect children whether it’s a violent game or scary which can traumatize the child yet as a parent I’m pretty sure it’s our mission or job to raise our children well which means keeping our attention on our children.

YouTube educational videos can help children in preschool age to learn the ABCs, numbers or even colors and those are very helpful and a great aid. But I also think that parents should monitor what children are ingesting from those videos. Which is why I decided to include one of my favorite websites that I mentioned before in a post that offers worksheets for children from an early age till 5th grade.

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For more educational resources, visit Education.com. There’re plenty of printable worksheets to choose from for free, my son enjoys tracing letters and the coloring ones. It helps me bond with him more while I teach him. You can check them out @education_com on Pinterest and Twitter.

 

nomakenolife – Feburary 2019

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Yay new subscription box to try.

I’ve always been a fan of Korean and Japanese beauty products, I tried Kira Kira Crate before and I absolutely loved it. I decided to try nomakenolife -odd name I know- since I recently canceled my subscription to YumeTwins.

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Crayon Touch me Lip Gloss in Shiny Orange (Japan)

I feel so giddy seeing a lip gloss, it’s been such a long time since I used one. The shade is a subtle orange shade which goes perfectly on top of any lipstick color and gives it an extra shine.

Sparkling Eye Gloss in honey gold (Japan)

Eye glosses make life easier, they are easy to apply and work with. The shade is golden-champagne with a pretty shimmer, can be used as a base along with other eyeshadows as it blends really well.

Etude House Eyebrow Pencil (Korea)

This pencil came at the perfect time, I’ve been needing one to define and fill my eyebrows and this pencil does this function pretty well. I never really tried Etude House products so this would be an introduction to me, so far I can say I like it.

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Cotton Pads (100pcs) (Korea)

I use cotton pads for a lot of things, makeup removing or nail polish so it’s a pretty useful pack.

Savon De Chocolate Soap (Japan)

This soap is a whole different level, it actually looks and smells like hot chocolate, if I didn’t read the package I would have ate it already. It smells so good and I was afraid to eat-I mean use it, it’s creamy and it left my skin moisturized and hydrated.

Fascy Moisture Bomb Hand Cream (Korean)

I love keeping hand creams in my bag, and this cream came in my favorite scent which is peach. I really love the smell, it’s also very lightweighted and not runny like the usual hand creams I tried before.

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G9Skin Milk Bomb Face Mask in Chocolate (Korean)

Again something with chocolate and it smells so delicious. I love Korean sheet masks, I always use them as the perfect ending of the day when my kids sleep and I have time to pamper myself. The mask left my skin hydrated and smooth, I would totally buy more of these.

Flower Puff in Pink

The last item is a powder puff that comes with a pretty flower on top where the applicator strap is, it’s soft which is great to be used with foundation or loose powder. Honestly, it looks too pretty to be used.

Overall, I have mixed feelings about this because I like some items and I feel they fit the theme and some don’t, like the cotton pads but I enjoyed most of the box items and I would continue my subscription for a while.

Comfort Is The Enemy of Progress

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It gets easier

or so I tell myself everyday …

Remember how hectic your life was when you had one child? I’ve always wondered how can moms manage themselves with multiple kids, I’m not sure how I have adapted to this life but my time management skills have greatly increased. While I was on my maternity leave, I still wanted to be productive in some way to my own benefit.

I’ve set a new motto for myself for the year 2019 which is “Comfort is the enemy of progress” I want to better myself instead of staying in my comfort zone, I’ve been in a positive mental state lately and it’s probably one of the reasons that made me think about improving myself. I’ve followed the technique of creating a habit for myself by utilizing my phone notifications on certain times to remind me to do that habit I’m planning to catch on if that makes sense, according to most of the self-help books and articles I read, you need about 21 days to form a habit. Did it work? Yes absolutely.

I can happily say that I started reading every day and from that, I thought of challenging myself to finish 20 books this year, hopefully, more if I could. Along with reading, I started to learn Japanese. It doesn’t come as a surprise to those who know me, I’ve been into the Japanese culture as long as I can remember and I don’t mean just from Anime. It’s always been a goal for me and I think it’s time that I get serious about it so I could at least say that I know how to read, write and speak three different languages.

I’ve been in a negative state of mind after my first pregnancy which I spoke about quite frequently in my older posts so learning from my mistakes before, I’m trying to get myself out of the “Isolated Parent” label. I started taking care of myself more without completely drowning myself in guilt that I’m leaving my children, for example, it’s ok to have my own time in the salon. It’s ok leaving my children with my in-laws even if I don’t always agree with them, it’s ok going out with my friends without overthinking about how my children are going to be without me during those couple of hours I’m away.

In terms of my anti-social side, I’ve been trying to get out of my shell. I became friends with a fellow blogger whom I enjoy reading her content Karalee, she’s the sweetest and I enjoy seeing the pictures she sends me of her daughter’s everyday life. It’s kind of refreshing to see how a person on the other side of the world would live their day-to-day life and how different it is from my everyday life. Speaking of the blogging community, I’m very happy to announce that one of my posts got approved to be in Positive Wellbeing Zine for Mums the third issue which I’m very excited about. It feels like a huge step for me to branch out my blogging activities somewhere and I hope it opens new opportunities for my blog to thrive.