Types of People I Hate During Ramadan

I feel like venting out, it’s been a while since I did something like this. Ramadan is a month when we Muslims fast (no drinks no food) during daylight hours till sunset, also it’s a time to purify the soul and be closer to god basically but some people just irritates me during this holy month. I already wrote about type of girls in Ramadan last year so this one is a bit more broad and rant-y.

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  • The Shopping Loop. I get it, you want to cook something nice for your family but buying that much of food isn’t exactly the right way to do it. I get surprised seeing some people dragging three shopping carts filled with food, I don’t really agree with focusing on your hunger during this month.
  • The Show and Tell. I think I mentioned this before in last year’s post but I seriously get irritated from these people and I’ve seen this recently where some girls Snapchat colored Qura’an that looks “cute” for the pictures. Basically showing “see I read Qura’an and it looks cute” seriously … why ?
  • The Fast and The Furious. I don’t know why people drive insanely during Ramadan, not only insanely but get seriously mad and upset super fast. We are all stuck in traffic, we are all tired so please shut up and continue pretending that are not texting while driving.
  • The Annoying Saint. Now these people show they are religious and saints but they love to annoy you by repeating the question why you are not like them, they’ll try to make you feel guilty for not doing something and will nag to you about it.
  • The Sinners By Night. I love music and I can’t stop listening to it, some people would consider music to be a sin so they would stop listening to it during daytime when they are fasting then listen by night. Are you ashamed that people would know you listen to music ? I don’t understand that logic honestly.

Anyway these are the type of people I can think of at the moment, pretty sure there’s a long list of that so let me know in the comments if you want to add anything.

I hope you are having a great day and have a blessed Ramadan, Thank you for reading.

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Valentine, Henna and Weddings

I should’ve probably wished for 2017 to be more drama-free because my-god how the drama waves are hitting me since this year started. Can I just have my drama-free life subscription renewed? Because I’m really not liking this year already.

So Valentine’s day passed by, I hope you enjoyed it anyway whether you like celebrating it alone or with a person. My case? My husband really hate such occasions since he doesn’t like labeling days and dates, he enjoys giving gifts on any random day unlike me who gets so invested in such celebrations. I gave my husband an eternal rose, you probably would imagine Beauty and The Beast rose because I originally wanted it to be that way but couldn’t find a similar glass case.

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My husband loves roses but hates to see them welt and die so I thought of giving him a rose that never really dies and I chose the rainbow one because he likes roses in all colors.

We had two weddings to attend to and they were happening two days in a row which made my life more hectic that I had to take few days off from work and try to finish wedding preparations shopping while spending time with my son because I hate being the kinda mother who doesn’t have time for her own kids.

Personally I hate henna but it’s somehow considered a tradition for Arab celebrations like Eid or weddings, so I was somewhat forced to do it … Not gonna lie I liked it but I hate the smell.

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Sorry for the lack of posts recently, I’ve been dealing with a lot of unnecessary drama and every time I finish from one another one pops into the mix. It’s been stressful to the point that I had to stay at my family house till things settle down and I’m fearing things would get awkward with certain people.

Glossybox and Inkbox reviews will be up soon by next week hopefully.

Hope you’re having a better day than I am, thank you for reading.

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Albums That Changed My Life – Pt 1

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Happy new year everyone !

I don’t really understand why everyone sees 2016 as a bad year, I would consider it as my favorite year because I feel I grew as a person when I became a mother. I think the parts I hate mostly are going through the baby blues as it progressed to postpartum depression, the emotions I had to go through let alone the tears that came out for no logical reason at all. Ironically these parts are the ones that changed me drastically and I realized how childish I was before.

So in the spirit of kicking myself for being too silly when I was younger, I decided to write about the albums that changed my life. Well, technically shaped my personality from the angsty emo teen to being a mother who still watches Pokemon.

If I go way back, I’ll probably mention few Arabic music since my grandfather used to play the Oud and sing whenever the family gathered but I remember few songs my mother used to play in the car and made us sing along.

Moving on to my preteen years, I started listening to more English music and of course the next album is the one that every 90s girl would know.

Spice Girls – Spice

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I remember I bought a Sony Walkman (like this one) and I really wanted to listen to music on a road trip from Jordan to Syria so my father stopped at some music store on the way and I took the cassette of this album because it looked interesting. I instantly became a fan of the Spice Girls and bought to next album Spiceworld and then Greatest Hits later on, I honestly still listen to their songs.

Now entering my teen years, I was forced into a public school and had to use the bus. The driver kept repeating one song throughout the whole ride, most of the girls were complaining because of it but it got lodged in my head and I heard the full album.

Blue – All Rise

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Don’t get me wrong, I was into Backstreet Boys and *NSYNC but Blue got a special place in my heart. Of course every girl go through the boy band phase, Let me know which was your favorite boy band ?

Around the same time, my cousin made me listen to an album that SUPPOSEDLY rated 18+ because of the language, and you know how we kids do whatever we can to pretend we are adults.

Madonna – American Life

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I guess my rebel phase started here because I officially learned how to swear and curse, or so I thought. Later the angst and rage of a teen was introduced so my music also shaped to fit that stage.

Linkin Park – Hybrid Theory

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Yes I’m into Linkin Park and still is. 

By that time I was listening to this album and also Meteora but mostly Hybrid Theory that’s why I chose it, I mean who didn’t blast “Runaway” and shouted the lyrics in the middle of the night?

During these years I was also into Britney Spears because every teen girl is, don’t deny it. So by the end of middle school, the cool girls were saying how amazing her song with Madonna “Me Against the Music” and I wanted to be cool so I repeated that song non-stop till I memorized it … and bragged about it, *sigh* young me, don’t go full stupid.

Britney Spears – Greatest Hits: My Prerogative

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I remember my father was so against me buying this album because she shows too much skin. It was a solid album of her best songs to be honest, it was my favorite for awhile.

Anyway, I’ve dragged this post for too long that’s why I’m stopping it here and I’ll post the second part soon hopefully since the next part will include my highschool to college years and they were all over the place of my choice in music.

Hope you enjoyed this post, I really want to know what albums changed your life so please comment below.

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Have a great day.

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Arab Girl Problems

I posted before a guide of a stereotype Arab husband which was for fun and giggles, didn’t really mean it in a serious way because obviously not all Arab men are like that. I thought of posting about problems and struggles us Arab ladies go through in our daily basis but I would like emphasize that it’s just for laughs before some Muslim sjw starts attacking.

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  • Finding a hijab that matches your clothes. You can have over 20 hijabs in different colors and styles but somehow getting one that fits your current outfit is nearly impossible so you gotta change your whole outfit just for that.
  • Taking a selfie while you avoid showing your face. Most Khaliji ladies (Ladies from Oman, UAE, Saudia Arabia, Kuwait, Qatar and Bahrain) do this, we don’t show our face just the lower part because we’ll get in trouble if someone finds our photos online.
  • Strangers you meet in Eid are somehow related to you. Your family is huge and you have no idea how big it is till Eid rolls and you meet those strangers.
  • Have over 100 selfies and no one to show. Like any girl we take a lot of selfies but we can’t really post them online unless we block certain relatives.
  • Get a new haircut or dye our hair and no one to show. We wear hijab when we go out so we can’t really flaunt and flip our new amazing hair in public.
  • Parents keep repeating that you can travel with your husband. Whenever you ask your parents for something, the first excuse they come up is “you can do that with your husband” and that builds an image in our head that a husband is a genie that will do every wish we want. Nope.
  • Blocking male relatives on social media. It’s easy for them to find anything wrong with you online and just start a rumor about you.
  • Family members keep hinting of new potential grooms. The annoying part is constantly hearing about potential suitors coming because they heard about you from a relative and didn’t exactly see or met you.
  • Going on a date requires a lot of planning. Now this might freak out few extremists but yeah we go on dates and it requires a long time of planning of the time and place because you’ll need to avoid any place you know a relative might show up and see you.
  • You can’t have male friends. It’s easier not to talk about them before parents start annoying you about this, or just say colleagues.
  • Parents keep comparing you with other daughters. “Your cousin can do this and that while you just stay home laying down” Even if you do well in your life, your parents will forever compare you to others like you are a bad daughter.
  • People assume you are related to a certain person just because you have the same last name. We are not related now move on with your life.
  • If you reach 25, your marriage chances are slimming down. I have no idea how to explain this logic but social standards made us start freaking out when we reach 25 and we are still single because for some reason when you get older from there, you might end up single forever.
  • Something bad happens, blame it on evil eye. This one I find hilarious, whenever something bad happens it means someone didn’t say mashalla and we got hit with the evil eye.
  • Juice bars are only for taking pictures for snapchat. We go to juice bars to take pictures of our amazing nails with the drink, pretty much that’s it.
  • Freak out when you see another girl wearing same bag or hijab as you. I mean honestly any girl would freak out if she sees someone wearing same clothing as her.

I hope these points made you laugh, I don’t want to make it sound like we are oppressed or something since mainstream media likes to show how bad Muslims are. If I missed out any point let me know in the comments and let’s share the laughs.

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Being Nice ≠ Being Flirty

Couple of months ago I posted about me being too nice and mentioned some coworker who’s getting too comfortable with me and getting close and I wasn’t really comfortable with that. I decided write a follow-up about it and turn this post to a rant because it’s been bothering me for quite awhile.

In the post I mentioned earlier, this coworker has literally crossed all the lines I’m trying to keep between us and basically started flirting, and I could honestly say it’s all my fault since I’m too nice and I hate being mean. I could post some screenshots of the things he keeps sending to me on Instagram direct messages but they are all in Arabic, he moved his title from being just a coworker to complete creepy stalker because he sent to me a message when I was leaving work which I can translate to “Hey gorgeous, I see you are leaving late today” I didn’t see him at all and it made me really uncomfortable like he’s stalking me and these messages were increasing, I started ignoring them but he just won’t stop. He even messaged me saying “Why did you get married ? You look so young and I was really surprised when you mentioned your husband and even got a son” I can assume he got fed up from how I keep pushing him away and dropping hints about my husband when he really wants to flirt with me thinking I’m approachable because I seem lonely since my husband travels a lot. I was thinking to even post a picture of me and my husband holding hands or something with a romantic caption just to show him back off I love my husband. I didn’t want to be mean but I sent him a message to stop sending me flirty messages because I’m married and I’m really uncomfortable with this, he said sorry but I really wanted to block him. The problem is, I see his face at work and he calls my work phone several times and I ignore.

So here’s my little rant about this because for some reason this dude isn’t the first one who thinks it’s okay to approach a girl just because she’s nice and replied to his messages. I hate being a feminist about all this but seriously it’s not okay to assume she’s into you just because she replied/smiled/laughed/exchanged phone numbers/commented on anything on your social media/listened to your problems. It’s not acceptable also to think we are being flirty because of that, if you are comfortable talking to that person it’s fine but don’t cross the lines that person put completely obvious to you. Think of it this way, would you like it if you saw these messages on your partner’s phone ? It’ll go down in two ways, either you’ll think your partner is cheating on you or you’ll get furious from this creepy stalker who’s harassing her while she’s politely saying “F#$% off”

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The Motherhood Rant

It’s been awhile since I wrote a proper rant post and since I’m already in my rage mode because one of my co-workers decided to stop talking to me for nearly 3 weeks now for no apparent reason, I’m the kind of person who has quick temper so I’m seriously tempted to throw a stapler to her face just so I give her a reason to stop talking to me like she’s doing now … b*!%$. Anyway so I’ve been thinking about writing this post for awhile of some things people say regarding motherhood that irritates me.

Moms don’t have time to take care of themselves

I’ve always disagreed with this statement, being a mother is exhausting and tiring true but we mothers need an alone time. It’s all about time management, have an hour or two just for yourself to do whatever you want for yourself. Whatever we choose to do in this alone time is our choice, whether I want to take care of myself or just sleep because being sleep deprived is a bonus trait comes with motherhood. Also taking care of ourselves doesn’t necessary mean beautifying alone, it also mean drinking enough water in a day or not forgetting to eat since we are hectic and all over the place from kids.

And let me end my point with this statement, in Arab countries men think we take care of ourselves for them. No, we do it for ourselves not for husbands or guys in general so stop assuming that if I had a new haircut or decided to wear makeup that day just to impress my husband.

Don’t think about your figure since you are a mother now

No no no, I will forever care about my figure. Those sagging sides and boobs will still make me feel insecure about myself. It’s not easy to ignore these imperfections in our bodies and be one of the people who preach body positive rants and pretend to not care, at least for me I think.

I hate it when ladies say “Oh you had your first child you’ll go down hill from now on so no need to bother yourself in trying to lose weight or getting back your former glory body” I honestly can’t just stop bothering in trying to regain my old body, I know I can’t return super skinny or have a model-like body but I can try to lose my baby weight for myself because I feel comfortable seeing my body that way.

Your marriage life will now be loveless

This statement that irritates me the most, I mean I get it babies take most of the time that couples don’t have time to be together as much but it doesn’t mean the feelings between those two will all the sudden fade just because of a baby. Like I said in my first point, it’s all about time management. Couples should have a time to be together, try go on a date while leaving their children with a babysitter or even relatives if possible.

There’re too many ways to show affection, even by talking on bed before sleeping is therapeutic by it’s own. Cuddling from time to time while the baby is sleeping doesn’t take that much time as well so why assume couples all the sudden fall out of love just because they have babies now ?

Okay now that I’ve vented out my thoughts I’ll continue imagining throwing the stapler to my coworkers’s face, I’ll probably throw the printer just in case I missed.

Arab Husband Stereotype Guide

I’ve been married for a year and few months now and I don’t consider myself an expert but based on what I noticed and heard from other ladies, Arab men are alot more harder to deal with. I know the common saying that women are complicated but I can say it’s the complete opposite and here’s why:

  • Don’t expect anything romantic after getting married.
    So he swoon you with sweet words and stayed all night talking on the phone during the engagement phase, and you just love to brag to all of your friends that he’s so romantic and treats you like a queen. Well that’s gonna end so fast when you get married and move in together, you’ll slowly realize how a different person he is after seeing all other sides of him.
  • Giving a cold attitude is considered manly.
    For some reason Arab men think they are manly and tough when they don’t show any emotion and just be cold. I don’t understand how that equals manly to be honest.
  • Will try to control you.
    He’ll try to control you like it’s his main task in life, will try to control what you wear, how to walk, how you wear your hijab if you wear one, how you talk with other men, which outfit to wear when you go out, how you’ll cover up and who you hang out with.
  • Will share your interests only during engagement period.
    Like I mentioned in the first point, he’ll share your interests and be romantic only during engagement just to show you he’s interesting in knowing you then later totally go opposite way.
  • Going out shopping groceries is considered a date.
    My idea of a date is a romantic dinner in a fancy place where both can enjoy themselves and forget all life problems, but no if you say you want to go out he’ll take you grocery shopping if you didn’t specify what do you mean by out.
  • Watching football with him is boring but at least you are sitting together.
    Sometimes you’ll get frustrated that you two don’t sit together as before so you’ll find yourself watching football with him just for the company and take a chance of a small talk between goal replays and half time.
  • He’ll flirt with you on rare unexpected moments.
    So you gave up on hearing anything sweet now that you two are married but he’ll surprise you with few flirt lines on such odd moments that it’ll make you freeze in place questioning his sanity.
  • Doesn’t bother wearing a wedding ring.
    Us women get so happy that we are married and so we wear our wedding ring as a trophy to brag with while men will just wear it in the first months then doesn’t bother wearing it ever again.
  • Will expect you to cook.
    The forever stereotype of a wife will haunt you as he’ll expect you to cook for him because women should do that.
  • Dropping hints won’t make him understand what you mean.
    If you want to say something indirectly to him expecting him to understand your hints is a lost cause, I don’t know if he is naturally dense or acting stupid.
  • Gets super moody when hungry or sleepy.
    Beware of men period if he didn’t sleep well at night or he is hungry, he’ll go on full rude attitude the whole day.
  • Hates hearing you complain but it’s okay for him to do that.
    He can’t handle hearing you complain, sometimes he’ll just say it to your face “don’t hurt my head” but when he wants to complain, you gotta listen to him from the beginning to the end.
  • Will ask for your opinion just to allow you to say it but chooses his opinion otherwise.
    He’ll ask you what do think about something just to say “well I asked your opinion” but in the end he’ll still stay on his opinion because he’s always right.
  • You’ll remind him of things while he acts he didn’t forget.
    He hates being wrong so if you remind him of something he forgot, he’ll act like he didn’t forget but only asking you to make sure.
  • You’ll name him Love or Sweetheart on your phone while your name will be just literally your name in his phone and in some cases “the mother of (your child name)”.
    I’m not even gonna explain this, it’s depressing as it is.
  • Will comment on your appearance as a joke.
    Most of us women has insecurities regarding our looks basically our bodies, men however likes to point it out as a joke and makes you think about it more than you should.
  • When you say “I love you” he’ll reply okay.
    Probably feels too proud to actually reply to you but deep inside you know he loves you without even saying it.
  • Fighting over the blanket will become a routine.
    The epic battle of who takes most of the blanket will become a routine with a winner each night.
  • Hates talking about work so don’t ask “how was your day?”.
    He absolutely hates talking about work unless he opens up to you which happens rarely.
  • Won’t ask you to teach him something if he needs help.
    Again with the manly pride, he doesn’t need anyone’s help because he knows everything.
  • It’s okay for him to stay late but if you are still out by 10:30 he’ll turn into your parents and call you like you are on curfew.
    Because he’s a man, it’s completely fine for him to come home late but if you were late, he’ll call you like he became your parents and you’re a teenager again.

Please don’t take this too seriously, I’ve wrote it for humor mainly. I would love to know what do you think.