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Types of People I Hate During Ramadan

I feel like venting out, it’s been a while since I did something like this. Ramadan is a month when we Muslims fast (no drinks no food) during daylight hours till sunset, also it’s a time to purify the soul and be closer to god basically but some people just irritates me during this holy month. I already wrote about type of girls in Ramadan last year so this one is a bit more broad and rant-y.

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  • The Shopping Loop. I get it, you want to cook something nice for your family but buying that much of food isn’t exactly the right way to do it. I get surprised seeing some people dragging three shopping carts filled with food, I don’t really agree with focusing on your hunger during this month.
  • The Show and Tell. I think I mentioned this before in last year’s post but I seriously get irritated from these people and I’ve seen this recently where some girls Snapchat colored Qura’an that looks “cute” for the pictures. Basically showing “see I read Qura’an and it looks cute” seriously … why ?
  • The Fast and The Furious. I don’t know why people drive insanely during Ramadan, not only insanely but get seriously mad and upset super fast. We are all stuck in traffic, we are all tired so please shut up and continue pretending that are not texting while driving.
  • The Annoying Saint. Now these people show they are religious and saints but they love to annoy you by repeating the question why you are not like them, they’ll try to make you feel guilty for not doing something and will nag to you about it.
  • The Sinners By Night. I love music and I can’t stop listening to it, some people would consider music to be a sin so they would stop listening to it during daytime when they are fasting then listen by night. Are you ashamed that people would know you listen to music ? I don’t understand that logic honestly.

Anyway these are the type of people I can think of at the moment, pretty sure there’s a long list of that so let me know in the comments if you want to add anything.

I hope you are having a great day and have a blessed Ramadan, Thank you for reading.

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Being Friends With Your Ex

Can you be friends with your ex … NO.

At least my case I think so.

Some people are completely fine in staying friends with their exes but I’m from the other side who can’t because no matter how much I try to avoid getting hurt, I will eventually. Probably because I’m quite an emotional person, I fall apart into tears really easily. I used that ‘Skill‘ to my advantage whenever I want to write a free verse poem, I usually feel something and amplify it then write it.

I tried staying friends with an ex, feeding myself the excuses that ‘well, we are more mature now and we can keep this in control‘ like I said, excuses. You can’t really erase a feeling you had for a person you spent a great amount of time with, I noticed that in myself that I bury it deeply till I see that person and all the memories rush out without any control. One of the mistakes I did with my exes is associate a song with the person so after we broke up, I can’t listen to that song and keep skipping it even though I can just delete it but I don’t. One of the reasons I can’t be friends with my ex is that I know he knows me more than anyone and that makes me feel exposed against him so I choose to avoid him.

Recently I had some encounter with my ex which made me realize that it’s absolutely impossible for me to stay friends with him that I had to block him. I’m not really the kind of person to erase people out of my life by blocking, I actually think that’s quite immature but it felt required after what have been said and I think I’m okay with it.

The gist of this random post is … He’s an ex for a reason, no matter how hard you justify it and it’s really hard to control your feelings and emotions, and be just friends with that person. I would love to know your thoughts about this, can you be friends with an ex ?

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Being Nice ≠ Being Flirty

Couple of months ago I posted about me being too nice and mentioned some coworker who’s getting too comfortable with me and getting close and I wasn’t really comfortable with that. I decided write a follow-up about it and turn this post to a rant because it’s been bothering me for quite awhile.

In the post I mentioned earlier, this coworker has literally crossed all the lines I’m trying to keep between us and basically started flirting, and I could honestly say it’s all my fault since I’m too nice and I hate being mean. I could post some screenshots of the things he keeps sending to me on Instagram direct messages but they are all in Arabic, he moved his title from being just a coworker to complete creepy stalker because he sent to me a message when I was leaving work which I can translate to “Hey gorgeous, I see you are leaving late today” I didn’t see him at all and it made me really uncomfortable like he’s stalking me and these messages were increasing, I started ignoring them but he just won’t stop. He even messaged me saying “Why did you get married ? You look so young and I was really surprised when you mentioned your husband and even got a son” I can assume he got fed up from how I keep pushing him away and dropping hints about my husband when he really wants to flirt with me thinking I’m approachable because I seem lonely since my husband travels a lot. I was thinking to even post a picture of me and my husband holding hands or something with a romantic caption just to show him back off I love my husband. I didn’t want to be mean but I sent him a message to stop sending me flirty messages because I’m married and I’m really uncomfortable with this, he said sorry but I really wanted to block him. The problem is, I see his face at work and he calls my work phone several times and I ignore.

So here’s my little rant about this because for some reason this dude isn’t the first one who thinks it’s okay to approach a girl just because she’s nice and replied to his messages. I hate being a feminist about all this but seriously it’s not okay to assume she’s into you just because she replied/smiled/laughed/exchanged phone numbers/commented on anything on your social media/listened to your problems. It’s not acceptable also to think we are being flirty because of that, if you are comfortable talking to that person it’s fine but don’t cross the lines that person put completely obvious to you. Think of it this way, would you like it if you saw these messages on your partner’s phone ? It’ll go down in two ways, either you’ll think your partner is cheating on you or you’ll get furious from this creepy stalker who’s harassing her while she’s politely saying “F#$% off”

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motherhood · rant

The Motherhood Rant

It’s been awhile since I wrote a proper rant post and since I’m already in my rage mode because one of my co-workers decided to stop talking to me for nearly 3 weeks now for no apparent reason, I’m the kind of person who has quick temper so I’m seriously tempted to throw a stapler to her face just so I give her a reason to stop talking to me like she’s doing now … b*!%$. Anyway so I’ve been thinking about writing this post for awhile of some things people say regarding motherhood that irritates me.

Moms don’t have time to take care of themselves

I’ve always disagreed with this statement, being a mother is exhausting and tiring true but we mothers need an alone time. It’s all about time management, have an hour or two just for yourself to do whatever you want for yourself. Whatever we choose to do in this alone time is our choice, whether I want to take care of myself or just sleep because being sleep deprived is a bonus trait comes with motherhood. Also taking care of ourselves doesn’t necessary mean beautifying alone, it also mean drinking enough water in a day or not forgetting to eat since we are hectic and all over the place from kids.

And let me end my point with this statement, in Arab countries men think we take care of ourselves for them. No, we do it for ourselves not for husbands or guys in general so stop assuming that if I had a new haircut or decided to wear makeup that day just to impress my husband.

Don’t think about your figure since you are a mother now

No no no, I will forever care about my figure. Those sagging sides and boobs will still make me feel insecure about myself. It’s not easy to ignore these imperfections in our bodies and be one of the people who preach body positive rants and pretend to not care, at least for me I think.

I hate it when ladies say “Oh you had your first child you’ll go down hill from now on so no need to bother yourself in trying to lose weight or getting back your former glory body” I honestly can’t just stop bothering in trying to regain my old body, I know I can’t return super skinny or have a model-like body but I can try to lose my baby weight for myself because I feel comfortable seeing my body that way.

Your marriage life will now be loveless

This statement that irritates me the most, I mean I get it babies take most of the time that couples don’t have time to be together as much but it doesn’t mean the feelings between those two will all the sudden fade just because of a baby. Like I said in my first point, it’s all about time management. Couples should have a time to be together, try go on a date while leaving their children with a babysitter or even relatives if possible.

There’re too many ways to show affection, even by talking on bed before sleeping is therapeutic by it’s own. Cuddling from time to time while the baby is sleeping doesn’t take that much time as well so why assume couples all the sudden fall out of love just because they have babies now ?

Okay now that I’ve vented out my thoughts I’ll continue imagining throwing the stapler to my coworkers’s face, I’ll probably throw the printer just in case I missed.

life · rant · Stories

I Am a College Dropout

IMG_1121I am a college dropout.

This title would usually mean that the person is lazy, a failure, too stupid to learn anything, can’t commit basically a stigma.

I registered in an IT college called Middle East College and I was enrolled in Software Technologies major back in 2007. I passed the placement exam which decides if you start in foundation classes or directly to major modules, it was general IT questions and English related exam. And so my journey through college life began on a happy note, I was enjoying it. I loved spending time there, meeting new friends, trying to cram for exams while finishing assignments on the deadline day like any college student.

Later on, friends whom I hang out with who are considered the uptight individuals hated the other friends I had who included some guys, those uptight ones consider a girl being in a group of friends that has guys is seriously wrong and will somehow ruin your reputation. It reached to the point where they would talk about me just because they saw me helping a male classmate in something related to class, I don’t understand the logic of why it’s considered wrong. Dealing with this on the side as I realized how girls can be so fake and will try to destroy you by any means for something they were taught by their families to be wrong. There’s a huge difference between culture and religion, for some reason our society follows those cultural rules as if they are related to our religion when it’s not.

Anyway, that drama went on and masks began to fall. I knew who was real and who was fake and I began to isolate myself slowly through my last semesters at this college. That’s when depression started taking over me, I started getting Fs’ and these “friends” were mocking me that they’ll graduate soon while I’ll stay stuck in college. Everyday was getting stressful, assignments and programming were becoming my life and my hair started falling. I felt like a failure and I was wasting my father’s money, I’ll never pass these last five modules and graduate like everyone. Part of me was hurt that I’ll make my parents disappointed but the other part wanted to be selfish and think for myself, I wasn’t happy so I needed to get out from that toxic aura.

So I dropped-out of college when I had only five modules left to graduate and received  only a diploma as others started saying that I’ll never get a job with a degree as mine. The “friends” I knew all graduated with a better degree than me and flaunted their victory everywhere but I wasn’t that green with envy, I just wanted to be happy. Same year I dropped out, I took an exam for a job and there were almost 30 applicants for this job. I was probably the only one with that ‘low’ degree so according to them my chances weren’t that high. I got the highest mark on that test and got the job, I became an IT engineer at the Public Authority for Radio and TV which is basically the official radio and tv station of my country.

While I can hear the silent whispers of how I got this job fairly, they weren’t too happy that someone with lower grades got it but I didn’t care. Grades don’t identify how smart or stupid the person is, to each has their own abilities in achieving what they want. Doesn’t matter if you are a straight A student or a complete failure, these grades won’t help you in life. I don’t regret leaving college even though I know I can pass the remaining modules and it’ll increase my salary but I’m happy now and satisfied how my life turned out.

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Why I Stopped Playing New Games

While everyone sits excited for a certain game to be released, I’ll be sitting on my own corner playing older games. To be more specific, PS1 and PS2 games -in fact- I can go all the way back to atari. As technology advances each month now with VR devices and new consoles being scheduled for release dates , I still seem to stray away. Don’t get me wrong I absolutely love gaming in all consoles but new games doesn’t appeal to me anymore and here’s why.

Games started to heavily add the online feature not only in MMOs as before but all the games recently. The elements of ‘Sharing’ and ‘Connecting’ seem to take over everything not only in social media, and to prove my point the PS4 controller has changed with the Share button and it still irritates me. Apart from that, DLCs started to spread for every game as well and it just tempting for us gamers to buy them just because we want to continue playing our favorite game. Honestly without the online feature and DLCs I can beat the whole game -basic game as the cool kids call it-  in one or two days at maximum.

What also irritates me in new games are the new episodic genre. I’m not saying they are all bad, I just don’t understand the appeal of it. I honestly enjoyed Life is Strange which is an episodic type of game but I hate the fact that I have to wait two months to play the rest of the game. Take Dark Dreams Don’t Die for example such a weird yet fun game but season one ended back in 2014, now we wait for season two for how many more years ? Are game developers getting too lazy that they release games as small parts at a time ?

Let’s say we found a game without these disadvantages I mentioned, why I won’t still play it ? New games focus and rely too much on graphics that it overshadows the main storyline. I’m obviously not saying all new games are like that but the ones I did try. There’re so many good games with amazing graphics but can be beaten in few hours so this makes me wonder, why should I waste almost 60$ on game I can beat that easy. I rather spend 100 hours on a game that worth a price of nowadays’ games.

life · rant

Arab Husband Stereotype Guide

I’ve been married for a year and few months now and I don’t consider myself an expert but based on what I noticed and heard from other ladies, Arab men are alot more harder to deal with. I know the common saying that women are complicated but I can say it’s the complete opposite and here’s why:

  • Don’t expect anything romantic after getting married.
    So he swoon you with sweet words and stayed all night talking on the phone during the engagement phase, and you just love to brag to all of your friends that he’s so romantic and treats you like a queen. Well that’s gonna end so fast when you get married and move in together, you’ll slowly realize how a different person he is after seeing all other sides of him.
  • Giving a cold attitude is considered manly.
    For some reason Arab men think they are manly and tough when they don’t show any emotion and just be cold. I don’t understand how that equals manly to be honest.
  • Will try to control you.
    He’ll try to control you like it’s his main task in life, will try to control what you wear, how to walk, how you wear your hijab if you wear one, how you talk with other men, which outfit to wear when you go out, how you’ll cover up and who you hang out with.
  • Will share your interests only during engagement period.
    Like I mentioned in the first point, he’ll share your interests and be romantic only during engagement just to show you he’s interesting in knowing you then later totally go opposite way.
  • Going out shopping groceries is considered a date.
    My idea of a date is a romantic dinner in a fancy place where both can enjoy themselves and forget all life problems, but no if you say you want to go out he’ll take you grocery shopping if you didn’t specify what do you mean by out.
  • Watching football with him is boring but at least you are sitting together.
    Sometimes you’ll get frustrated that you two don’t sit together as before so you’ll find yourself watching football with him just for the company and take a chance of a small talk between goal replays and half time.
  • He’ll flirt with you on rare unexpected moments.
    So you gave up on hearing anything sweet now that you two are married but he’ll surprise you with few flirt lines on such odd moments that it’ll make you freeze in place questioning his sanity.
  • Doesn’t bother wearing a wedding ring.
    Us women get so happy that we are married and so we wear our wedding ring as a trophy to brag with while men will just wear it in the first months then doesn’t bother wearing it ever again.
  • Will expect you to cook.
    The forever stereotype of a wife will haunt you as he’ll expect you to cook for him because women should do that.
  • Dropping hints won’t make him understand what you mean.
    If you want to say something indirectly to him expecting him to understand your hints is a lost cause, I don’t know if he is naturally dense or acting stupid.
  • Gets super moody when hungry or sleepy.
    Beware of men period if he didn’t sleep well at night or he is hungry, he’ll go on full rude attitude the whole day.
  • Hates hearing you complain but it’s okay for him to do that.
    He can’t handle hearing you complain, sometimes he’ll just say it to your face “don’t hurt my head” but when he wants to complain, you gotta listen to him from the beginning to the end.
  • Will ask for your opinion just to allow you to say it but chooses his opinion otherwise.
    He’ll ask you what do think about something just to say “well I asked your opinion” but in the end he’ll still stay on his opinion because he’s always right.
  • You’ll remind him of things while he acts he didn’t forget.
    He hates being wrong so if you remind him of something he forgot, he’ll act like he didn’t forget but only asking you to make sure.
  • You’ll name him Love or Sweetheart on your phone while your name will be just literally your name in his phone and in some cases “the mother of (your child name)”.
    I’m not even gonna explain this, it’s depressing as it is.
  • Will comment on your appearance as a joke.
    Most of us women has insecurities regarding our looks basically our bodies, men however likes to point it out as a joke and makes you think about it more than you should.
  • When you say “I love you” he’ll reply okay.
    Probably feels too proud to actually reply to you but deep inside you know he loves you without even saying it.
  • Fighting over the blanket will become a routine.
    The epic battle of who takes most of the blanket will become a routine with a winner each night.
  • Hates talking about work so don’t ask “how was your day?”.
    He absolutely hates talking about work unless he opens up to you which happens rarely.
  • Won’t ask you to teach him something if he needs help.
    Again with the manly pride, he doesn’t need anyone’s help because he knows everything.
  • It’s okay for him to stay late but if you are still out by 10:30 he’ll turn into your parents and call you like you are on curfew.
    Because he’s a man, it’s completely fine for him to come home late but if you were late, he’ll call you like he became your parents and you’re a teenager again.

Please don’t take this too seriously, I’ve wrote it for humor mainly. I would love to know what do you think.