Embracing my Tutor Side

A week ago I was having a conversation with Karalee (Tales of Belle) about our children and she mentioned Kindergarden. Now I know I’m all-out protective mom and I will probably (means I will 100%) cry on the day my son would start school, I’m just too attached to him and it feels overwhelming seeing how fast he has grown, I’m not mentally prepared for this.

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Me: So where do we go from here ?
Son: This way
Me: And then ?
Son: Flower
Me: You can’t pass the walls
Son: Bee flies

Yeah, I didn’t expect that smart answer.

Enjoy the outdoors with this fun maze! Be sure to check out Education.com for more learning fun.

Recently I’ve been trying to spend more time with my son before I give birth because I don’t want him to feel left out since all the attention would be shifted to his new sibling. I’ve started reading bedtime stories to my son since he was around 4 months old, of course he wasn’t interested in the stories but he liked the characters and the colors in the storybooks. As he got older he started choosing which book to read on his own, connecting the characters to his favorite nursery rhymes.

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One of the methods I used for teaching my son the basics for example color and shapes, are educational toys and sometimes YouTube videos of his favorite characters. Of course the YouTube way needs to be supervised, you never know if your kid going to end in the dark side.

I feel like most of the things I listed so far are just excuses not to let my child start preschool, to be honest I was contacted by Education.com who provided me with the maze in the first picture and I’ve enjoyed the content and worksheets they listed on their website, and I’m not saying this because they reached out to me. I personally think the material I found on that website are very helpful for children same age as my son and it helped me bond with my son even more.

Exploring my tutor side was very interesting, it sparked creativity and imagination when I trigger his curiosity. It gave our conversation a new direction and it gets hilarious sometimes, my husband and I stare at each other confused when my son says something new every time and we’ve been enjoying it.

Teach your children to never stop exploring

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What They Don’t Tell You About Pregnancy

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Pregnancy is a beautiful journey where you discover your maternal side and all those pretty words they add in every book, article or even cards. I’ve had two pregnancies so far and I’ve experienced different effects in each pregnancy, so I can assure you each pregnancy is different. Along with this bright side of it, the perfect skin and hair obviously there’s a low side as well. Here’s the hard truths about pregnancy and what no one really told me when I got pregnant.

  • Stressing over maternity leave. If you are a working mom, maternity leave will be one of the your main concerns because you’ll be counting the days you’re allowed to have while getting paid or add a month or two unpaid. For example I’ve been counting the days I can take while accumulating my annual leave so I can add it after my maternity leave ends so I would have more time to spend with my kids. The whole matter is stressful on it’s own because it feels like I’m forcing myself to go to work while I’m tired and I need to rest.
  • The gross side. No one really told me about the gross and disgusting stuff that happens during pregnancy. The burping, the hiccups, passing gas and feeling your dignity fading away along with it. I’m afraid it might happen to me in public and I have no way of controlling this, it just happens at weird times unexpected.
  • Everyone likes to tell you about their experience. For some reason every lady wants to tell you about her experience in pregnancy whether it’s good or bad, and if you are a first time mom it might scare you.
  • Nine months is a bit too long. You start counting those nine months in weeks and 40 weeks sound easy to pass by but not really. Because you are waiting for those weeks to pass, it’ll seem much longer than it should be and each week just dragging the next one.
  • Heartburns. I HATE THEM and it sucks that I only get them at night before I sleep or I just suddenly wake up because of a heartburn. They make me miserable and I found out medicines that supposed to help you, don’t really work with me so ice cream became my best friend. They work instantly and helps with heartburns really fast so I always stock my freezer with different flavors so I wouldn’t get bored.

I love having kids, I don’t mind the pain from labor or childbirth because these only lasts at that moment but the whole nine month journey isn’t exactly my favorite chapter.

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Movies I’ve Watched Way too Many Times

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When it comes to movies when you become a parent, you don’t really have that much of a choice. Most of the movies you tend to watch with your kids are mostly going to be animated and they’ll get replayed … way too many times. My son takes over the TV most of the time, sometimes we allow it and sometimes he just turn it on his own. You can’t really underestimate kids of this generation, they already know how to unlock your phone easily. Here’s a list of movies, my son forced me to watch with him way too many times to count but I have to admit that I enjoy the hidden adult humor in each one:

Chicken Little

I’m not sure why my son adores this movie but I was intrigued to see how interested he was in the music used. It has plenty of classics that would be considered too old for millennials but my son memorizes them, building his music taste a bit too early which I don’t mind.

Minions

Those yellow pill shaped creatures became the most lovable characters all the sudden from the movie Despicable Me, they look oddly cute and talk funny. My son discovered this movie from OSN channel and he’s been repeating it over 100 times, obviously took him time to say the word Minions so he used to call this movie Banana.

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After he got introduced to the minions in the spin-off movie, I made him watch all three parts of the original movie and again he’s been repeating it over and over. Mostly being picky about the second part since the minions are more loud and purple, I mean I enjoy that part the most as well so it’s not all bad.

Cars

I don’t want to be the stereotypical mother and say boys must like cars and girls must like dolls but my son just adores cars, in fact he memorizes the car logos and says who drives that certain car regardless of size or color. Of course he’ll be fascinated about a movie that is all about cars and screams “MOM’S CAR” every time he sees the hippy VW car.

Toy Story

I was so happy to see that he got into this movie because it’s my all time favorite Pixar movie ever since I was young, I enjoy watching it with him. It made him question his toys if they move when he’s not around and he keeps asking me about it, it’s good to feed his tiny imagination.

The Incredibles

I’m surprised he got into this movie, he wasn’t into superhero stuff until he discovered Spiderman. Probably the red in their outfits that got him interested in this movie but he really enjoys it and sometimes imitates their fighting moves … boys will be boys in the end.

Hotel Transylvania

I made him watch the short movie that came out after the second part of Hotel Transylvania which was called Puppy! and since he’s an animal lover like me, that short movie made him love puppies even more. He recently found the full movie on Netflix and he watched it, and then started calling it “Bleh bleh bleh”

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Let me know which movies you’ve watched way too many to counts and what have you been enjoying lately, I’d love to introduce my son to more movies.

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Two Years Later…

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Couple of days ago, I was organizing the categories of older posts when I started this blog back in 2016. I had the time to revisit a lane of memories of my mental health back then, what I went through as a new mom and seeing how I’ve changed from that person to now was very interesting to me. Few posts stood out to me and I thought of reliving them and outline my thoughts now after I overcame some of my hardships.

But there’s something no one really told or warned me about, motherhood is beautiful yet lonely. As much as I had people around me, my family and my dear husband … I still felt lonely and some nights it made me cry. As a new mother, I didn’t know what is this feeling I’m getting and just considered it as baby blues, eventually it’ll somehow be gone. I didn’t want to call myself a bad mother for feeling this way but I still did and got drowned in my own negative thoughts.. Slowly became an expert in depressing myself and labelled me a Failure.

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I’ve always hated judgemental people, I thought I could deal with them but I forgot the most judgemental person of all was me. I’ve fed myself those ideas that I’m a bad mother because of the negative thoughts I’ve been getting and it caused me to create a bubble of isolation which I can assume that I thought would keep me safe but it only made me even more lonely. I was scared to open up about those thoughts because I thought others would judge me harshly just like the way I was doing to myself and that was wrong of me. For awhile I was scared that I would be getting those thoughts again now that I’m pregnant and it’ll be more of a cycle, but I realized it stems from a selfish feeling I had. I was selfish for not opening up about this with my husband whom I consider closest person to me, I was scared he would connect religion to mental health.

I told him about those thoughts I had and he was very supportive, it even got us closer more than before. Admitting my mistakes and talking about it helped me a lot during these two years after having our first child.

Stress can drown me easily because I’m quite an emotional person, I still wonder how my husband is keeping up with me. When my feet get tired from marching back and forth just to ease the baby colic days and I already know how many steps from the beginning to the end of the carpet. There were days when I couldn’t hold the burden of pressure and I just fall apart and cry, I’ve always stopped myself from talking about it to my husband which was a mistake.

The Me Time

I already admit it was a mistake but I went along with it for quite sometime. I think it’s pretty common for new moms to cry along with their babies from stress and all the unknown thrown at them during the first months, also hormones … never been a fan of you.

They keep saying “Your body did an amazing job, you created a new life and it needs time to recover” I feel proud that I tried the whole experience and going through what I called the worst pain ever but I miss my old slim body. I don’t really like the sagging loose skin on my belly and it makes me feel insecure around people at times, I can’t just suck it in and take short breaths just to look slimmer.

Postpartum Woes

Dealing with my body shape was one of the hardest tasks I faced when I became a mother, I wrote a post about it before when I was venting. I’ve been thin almost my entire life and it wasn’t exactly the healthy side of thin, but being with that body shape for a long time makes the process of accepting a new body shape really hard. It took me time to accept it but I can honestly say now I do, I love seeing my face having cheeks and I love seeing actual skin and fat without any bones sticking out.

Throughout these two years, I’ve learned plenty of lessons about motherhood. I could never ask for a better life, I found my purpose in life and I love every moment of being a mother.  I feel blessed having the honor of being called a mom of two …

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Four Seasons of Pregnancy Fashion

One of the reasons I love being pregnant is having the excuse of refreshing my wardrobe. I love shopping for clothes, it gives me a rush of trying different styles and having something new basically. I don’t necessary always choose maternity clothes, plus size and larger sized clothes are good enough for me. The best part about them, I could reuse them after I give birth but in a different way, like adding a belt and showing off how your waist slimmed down after pregnancy.

When it comes to pregnancy clothes, I always choose dresses. I feel they are more comfortable to wear for everyday more than pants, like I said before I can use them later on after pregnancy but as for maternity pants I feel they are only useful for few months then that’s it. I think dresses are more adaptable for body changes compared to pants, I’ll say it’s a preference in the end.

On the journey of 9 months, you go through seasons worth of clothes so I decided to list dresses appropriate for each season during your pregnancy. All the dresses listed in this post are offered in many sizes from S to 4XL so whether your pregnant or not, you can easily find your size.

This post is sponsored by Talever

Spring

When you think of Spring, you always have a floral designed dresses in mind.

I personally go for these dresses online because it’s very comfortable, the lace ribbon can be tied on the chest area leaving space for your belly to grow. If you’re going for more of a modest style, you could wear a pair of leggings and it’ll still look pretty nice.


Summer

For Summer, I always go for bohemian maxi dresses or beach dresses maxi styled dresses.

I think polyester is a great material, mostly because it’s stretchable. Like this dress, it’s gonna help you cool down in the summer heat and won’t make your bump feel uncomfortable since the material would be stretchable.


Fall

I think fall got a stigma of having more of a dark colored clothes, it somehow feels more fitting with the weather getting colder.

This dress is one the examples I mentioned earlier, you could use it after pregnancy when you add just a small accessory like a belt and it’ll look something different. I would wear this with a thick pantyhose, and I think it would be good to wear even in winter.


Winter

The transition from fall to winter fashion isn’t much, if the climate get more colder you could always wear something on your dress. I would personally go for a cotton cardigan, I feel they fit pretty much any style.

Now I would go for this gorgeous dress because it’s long enough to keep my legs warm and I can adjust the tight waist part to go above my pregnant belly. It can be used as a formal dress as well while staying comfortable.


I hope you enjoyed this selection of dresses I would recommend getting whether you’re pregnant or not, the site Talever offers those dresses in all sizes so I’m sure you’ll find your size in something you like. Let me know what do you think in the comments below.

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Baby Stuff I Won’t Be Getting

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On my first pregnancy, I was clueless and I was reading from books what items I would need when the baby arrive. I had plenty of stuff I never really used or even opened, I gave them as gifts for new moms maybe they’ll have use of them. I think the main difference between first and second pregnancy, is that you already know what’s going to happen each week as you read from those cute phone apps that tells you size of the baby and what organs has developed that week. Since you already got a toddler now, you don’t have that much time as before to read those things again but at least now you know your mistakes from the first pregnancy. Here’s a list of items, I won’t be buying this time.

  • Pacifiers
    I never really used them and I didn’t find the need of using them, my son was a quiet child and it was easy to calm him down.
  • Infant Car Seat
    Do you know the amount of time you need to make a child get used to a car seat? I remember how much my son was crying when I tried to get him in the car seat because I wanted to try going out with him on my own. I realized that day that it’s nearly impossible to do that, I rather sit in the back holding him while letting someone drive me which I’m also planning to do with my second child. Also babies grow fast so having an infant car seat would be a waste of money when the baby outgrows the seat itself then you’ll have to buy the bigger one which I’m currently using with my son since he was one year old.
  • Electronic Breast Pump
    I bought an electronic breast pump because I thought it’ll make the job easier but I was wrong, manual ones were the most useful for me. They are more portable and you can pump at your own pace instead of waiting for automated pumping with the electrical one.
  • Blanket Swaddle
    The difference between blanket swaddles and muslin swaddles is that blanket ones have flaps that makes it easier for you to know how to wrap your baby and you just stick it from point A to point B easily. For me I didn’t find them useful as my son found it easier to free his arms since it’s not secured that much and by night he would move his hands from the blanket and wakes up fast startled. That’s why I prefer muslin swaddles, I can wrap my child the way I’m more used to.
  • Changing Table
    I know they look so cute having them in the nursery but they take up pretty large space while having a crib, a closet and maybe a rocking chair. Eventually you’ll find yourself changing the diapers on the floor, it’s actually more safe so you can be sure your baby won’t roll in some way and fall.

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Tips on Road Tripping with a Toddler

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Whether it’s driving a few hours away to visit friends and family, or traveling to a new place to go sightseeing, road trips are supposed to be a fun way to travel, but with a toddler they can be downright awful. Toddlers have a very short attention span, so even a few minutes, much less a few hours, of sitting still can be near impossible for them. Usually that means they start kicking and crying, doing anything to get your attention. When you’re driving, a toddler’s antics are not only annoying, but dangerous. I’ve been going to UAE from time to time by car and it’s about 5 hours, sometimes more and that depends on the traffic or how many stops we have to take. Of course my first time going was really tiring because as a first time mom I was already clueless and I didn’t know what to do, my son was around 4 months by that time. With time I’ve gained experience and it’s been a lot smoother lately, also because my son is old enough to behave now. I’ve already posted about flying with a toddler, if you’re interested you can check it here.

So, here are a few tips on how to travel with a toddler that will make a road trip much smoother.

First off, always make sure you have taken proper safety measures before hitting the road. Toddlers accidentally hurt themselves all the time, but if you’re prepared then this will only be a minor setback instead of a major one. Check that your car seat is installed properly and that your toddler is buckled in. Bring a first-aid kit, plenty of water, and a flashlight just in case you have car trouble. In my country there are no strict rules about child safety and that just irritates me because I’ve seen so many parents put their children on their lap while they drive. Only recently those rules has been forced and it’s going to take time for people to understand child safety is very important, of course you would want your child unharmed and safe so please always use a car seat.

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My next tip is to drive at night. There are usually less cars on the road which can make your trip easier, but most importantly, your toddler will sleep through the trip instead of being wide-awake and making a fuss. If you can get your toddler to sleep for most of the drive, you’ll have a very easy time. In my case, me and my husband always choose times around afternoon because it’s easier for us to have lunch on the road and then my son would have his afternoon nap, so it works well both way as long as you know your child’s sleeping times. If you have to drive during the daytime like I do, be prepared for pit stops. Plan to stop at least every thirty minutes on your journey for bathroom breaks and to let your little one stretch his or her legs. I would suggest mapping out stopping points before you leave, so you’ll know you are stopping at safe and sanitary places.

Another tip is to relax on the normal rules you have. Keeping your toddler happy is very important during a long road trip, so if that means he or she gets to have a few more sugary snacks or gets to play on the iPad a little longer than usual, it’s okay. Like I mentioned earlier, toddlers have a very short attention span so it’s really not their fault that they can’t sit still for extended periods of time. It can also help to have one parent in the backseat, playing with your toddler to keep him busy. You and your partner can take turns driving and playing with your young one throughout the trip.

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If you are looking for road trip inspiration, check out this guide on the longest roads in the world by CarRentals.com.

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