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Being Friends With Your Ex

Can you be friends with your ex … NO.

At least my case I think so.

Some people are completely fine in staying friends with their exes but I’m from the other side who can’t because no matter how much I try to avoid getting hurt, I will eventually. Probably because I’m quite an emotional person, I fall apart into tears really easily. I used that ‘Skill‘ to my advantage whenever I want to write a free verse poem, I usually feel something and amplify it then write it.

I tried staying friends with an ex, feeding myself the excuses that ‘well, we are more mature now and we can keep this in control‘ like I said, excuses. You can’t really erase a feeling you had for a person you spent a great amount of time with, I noticed that in myself that I bury it deeply till I see that person and all the memories rush out without any control. One of the mistakes I did with my exes is associate a song with the person so after we broke up, I can’t listen to that song and keep skipping it even though I can just delete it but I don’t. One of the reasons I can’t be friends with my ex is that I know he knows me more than anyone and that makes me feel exposed against him so I choose to avoid him.

Recently I had some encounter with my ex which made me realize that it’s absolutely impossible for me to stay friends with him that I had to block him. I’m not really the kind of person to erase people out of my life by blocking, I actually think that’s quite immature but it felt required after what have been said and I think I’m okay with it.

The gist of this random post is … He’s an ex for a reason, no matter how hard you justify it and it’s really hard to control your feelings and emotions, and be just friends with that person. I would love to know your thoughts about this, can you be friends with an ex ?

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7 thoughts on “Being Friends With Your Ex

  1. Honestly, I am not sure if I agree or disagree. I have managed to be good friends with my ex. I think we are on a good term now because even before we got together we were best friends and after the breakup and the whole drama we missed the friendship part, not the love we shared and I think that is because at the time we didn’t take time to distinguish the love we had, I mean we were young and I thought I loved but at the time I didn’t realize that I love him as a friend which is the same in his case. So I guess you can be friends with your ex but it always depends on your story and the situation itself.

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    1. i had this conversation with someone on twitter who also mentioned the friendship part, i could agree with that but I guess a shitty person will always stay a shitty person that’s why in some cases I don’t think it’ll work out

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