Can you be friends with your ex … NO.
At least my case I think so.
Some people are completely fine in staying friends with their exes but I’m from the other side who can’t because no matter how much I try to avoid getting hurt, I will eventually. Probably because I’m quite an emotional person, I fall apart into tears really easily. I used that ‘Skill‘ to my advantage whenever I want to write a free verse poem, I usually feel something and amplify it then write it.
I tried staying friends with an ex, feeding myself the excuses that ‘well, we are more mature now and we can keep this in control‘ like I said, excuses. You can’t really erase a feeling you had for a person you spent a great amount of time with, I noticed that in myself that I bury it deeply till I see that person and all the memories rush out without any control. One of the mistakes I did with my exes is associate a song with the person so after we broke up, I can’t listen to that song and keep skipping it even though I can just delete it but I don’t. One of the reasons I can’t be friends with my ex is that I know he knows me more than anyone and that makes me feel exposed against him so I choose to avoid him.
Recently I had some encounter with my ex which made me realize that it’s absolutely impossible for me to stay friends with him that I had to block him. I’m not really the kind of person to erase people out of my life by blocking, I actually think that’s quite immature but it felt required after what have been said and I think I’m okay with it.
The gist of this random post is … He’s an ex for a reason, no matter how hard you justify it and it’s really hard to control your feelings and emotions, and be just friends with that person. I would love to know your thoughts about this, can you be friends with an ex ?