It’s been awhile since I wrote a proper rant post and since I’m already in my rage mode because one of my co-workers decided to stop talking to me for nearly 3 weeks now for no apparent reason, I’m the kind of person who has quick temper so I’m seriously tempted to throw a stapler to her face just so I give her a reason to stop talking to me like she’s doing now … b*!%$. Anyway so I’ve been thinking about writing this post for awhile of some things people say regarding motherhood that irritates me.
Moms don’t have time to take care of themselves
I’ve always disagreed with this statement, being a mother is exhausting and tiring true but we mothers need an alone time. It’s all about time management, have an hour or two just for yourself to do whatever you want for yourself. Whatever we choose to do in this alone time is our choice, whether I want to take care of myself or just sleep because being sleep deprived is a bonus trait comes with motherhood. Also taking care of ourselves doesn’t necessary mean beautifying alone, it also mean drinking enough water in a day or not forgetting to eat since we are hectic and all over the place from kids.
And let me end my point with this statement, in Arab countries men think we take care of ourselves for them. No, we do it for ourselves not for husbands or guys in general so stop assuming that if I had a new haircut or decided to wear makeup that day just to impress my husband.
Don’t think about your figure since you are a mother now
No no no, I will forever care about my figure. Those sagging sides and boobs will still make me feel insecure about myself. It’s not easy to ignore these imperfections in our bodies and be one of the people who preach body positive rants and pretend to not care, at least for me I think.
I hate it when ladies say “Oh you had your first child you’ll go down hill from now on so no need to bother yourself in trying to lose weight or getting back your former glory body” I honestly can’t just stop bothering in trying to regain my old body, I know I can’t return super skinny or have a model-like body but I can try to lose my baby weight for myself because I feel comfortable seeing my body that way.
Your marriage life will now be loveless
This statement that irritates me the most, I mean I get it babies take most of the time that couples don’t have time to be together as much but it doesn’t mean the feelings between those two will all the sudden fade just because of a baby. Like I said in my first point, it’s all about time management. Couples should have a time to be together, try go on a date while leaving their children with a babysitter or even relatives if possible.
There’re too many ways to show affection, even by talking on bed before sleeping is therapeutic by it’s own. Cuddling from time to time while the baby is sleeping doesn’t take that much time as well so why assume couples all the sudden fall out of love just because they have babies now ?
Okay now that I’ve vented out my thoughts I’ll continue imagining throwing the stapler to my coworkers’s face, I’ll probably throw the printer just in case I missed.